Problems with DS at school, fed up!!!(4 Posts)
Thats me fed up not DS!!
Heres the short version of my problem!
Ds is in Year 1. He is in a class of Yr1s and 2s and is the youngest in his class by nearly 3 months. He wont be 6 till the end of July.
Since he started back in September DS has had a problem with his temper. He tends to be very strong willed and has a tendancie to kick off if he is asked to do something that he doesnt want to do. We have been VERY strict with him at home and have his behaviour under control and we thought he was doing better at school too. At parents evening a few weeks ago we were told that DS is a very intelligent little boy but his temper was starting to get in the way of his progress. When i asked his teacher for specifics she was unable to give any and when i asked to have regular communication about his behaviour she said she didnt have the time.
Thats really the last time she has spokent o me regarding DS behaviour untill Monday. On monday his teacher called me over and told me he had had a bad day and had been told off a few times. That was all she told me. I spoke to DS and he told me what he had done. He was banned from watching TV and was sent to bed at 6pm for being naughty. Also made him write a letter of apology. On tuesday i sent DS into school with a letter for his teacher asking that a wirrten home school communication book be started so that i could be kept up to date with any problems and could punish accordingly.
On tuesday i was asked by DSs substitute teacher for a chat. The sub teacher told me that they were thinking of excluding DS at lunch times as he was not behaving. I asked if his teacher had got the letter and she said she wasnt aware of a letter.
Today i rang at 9.15 and left a message asking for DSs teacher to ring me when she gets a chance and i rang back at 12.30 to be told she had got the message and would ring after school. Needless to say there was no phone call and there is no communication whatsoever in DSs book bag.
What do i do? Do i write another letter reiterating that i want a home-school book or do i wait and give her till next week to reply?
Surely if my sons behaiviour is so bad that they want to exclude him then they should be wanting to talk with me. I always thought exclusion was for when every other possible plann had failed? I am a paretn who wants to sort this out desparately because the behaviour they are describing is not what i see at home, yes he can be rude and have a bit of an attitude which he is punished for BUT i dont see the angry, aggressive boy they describe (and im not saying he isnt doing it! Just that i dont see it)
I am getting really upset about all this and very frustrated that the school and especially DSs teacher does not want to work with me to sort this out.
Sorry for the rant!
Hello. If it was me I would call the school and make an appointment to see the head teacher. As you're getting nowhere fast with his teacher then you need to go above her/his head and get it resolved before it gets any worse-for you or your DS.
I would jot down the main points prior to going to the meeting as sometimes these things can get so emotional you lose the ability to be coherent
Hope it gets resolved for you.
Hi, It sounds to me that the teacher isn't very good at communicating - some do have an attitude towards parents, like we're a necessary evil. My DD also 6's teacher had me in tears after our first parents evening, but was wonderful at the last one (I think she must have gone on a course or something).
If I were you I would call in the morning and speak to the head. Don't worry about upsetting the teacher by going over her, you have tried to talk to her and she's not responded. Also, she might not like you from now on, but she will be more careful to be professional with you and DSif you have spoken to the Head. Who cares what she thinks of you, what matters is that she begins a dialogue with you.
Hi Bonkerz - I've posted this reply on your behaviour thread as well.
Sorry to read about this situation - it sounds really difficult for you all.
I am a primary school teacher and to me it sounds as though you are being really supportive at home in backing up the school when they say that your ds has been difficult. However, they do not seem to be following things through at school.
I agree that a home/school link book is necessary in order to keep you fully informed. I am extremely surprised that the school are talking about any kind of exclusion without in-depth discussions with you, and especially without seeming to try any pro-active behaviour management strategies with your ds.
Are you able to see the classteacher tomorrow when you either drop off or pick up your ds? If she is not available tomorrow, then I would suggest organising a meeting with the head-teacher for Friday. You have made many efforts to contact her and to maintain an open dialogue with the school, but if you don't get any further, then it is time to involve the headteacher.
I would talk to the class teacher about what rewards they have in place for your ds. It is very easy to talk about the sanctions for bad behaviour, but it sounds as though your ds needs some positive support at school. Does he find things difficult socially being the youngest in a mixed yr 1/2? Do you think this might be why he is displaying some challenging behaviour?
Sorry, a long ramble from me, with more questions than answers!
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