Banging head against wall over school.(16 Posts)
I second home-educating. Unless you're earning so much that his school fees are a blip in comparison, you probably won't even be worse off.
He's really young. He can easily learn all the skills he needs in a very short time if you are working 1-2-1 with him.
You can concentrate on the basics and also add in lots of fun - get him some music tuition, sports tuition etc. As long as he still regularly sees his friends from school (or other local home educators?) then he'll be happy.
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Had exactly the same experience at an International School in Asia, with a European approach, you have my sympathy. It wasn't just the teaching either, dd was nocked out in the playground and I did n't find out until she got home!! And my younger dd came home wet because they put Reception on the bus 15 minutes earlier than the rest and then wouldn't let them back in the school. Driver told dd and friend to go on the pavement! They had a word crocadile in Reception, they were not allowed a book until they could read every word on it. DD is dyslexic, she still wouldn't have a reading book now if she had had to learn them by look see!!
Sounds frustrating especially if you are paying ££££.
I think if you werent moving back it might not matter, if the school follow a different philosophy but then produce children who leave the school well educated with the grades they need.
If it helps, dd is the same age and goes to state school in the UK. I get wound up sending her to school but still teaching her to read, her tables, her spellings etc.
Yeah, actually, if you're not working, I would take him out and home ed. (Are your other children older or younger?) You can get tutors for some of the specialist things and do lots with him yourself and still have loads of time for sport and chilling out. Far preferable to sending him back to board.
I can't tell whether you work ft or not, but can't you take him out of school and home-school him - he doesn't seem to be learning anything at school and you are paying lots of money for the privilege.
Why not have a look at the home education section on here, there is some brilliant advice on there and I am sure they would be able to direct you to resources etc even if you decide to continue sending him to school and supporting him in the evening.
Yes, you're right. That was harsh. I think my point was that you know what needs doing and it's. only for a year and he is clearly receptive to your helping him,so I think you just need to bypass the school and do it. The post about my not realising how difficult it is to coordinate all this in a city overseas may be right.
Fwiw I can understand why you are exhausted. You are paying top whack for shoddy education, not sure where you live- but having been an expat myself in many Asian cities, can appreciate that resources can be in far flung corners of cities, terrible traffic, and nightmare road conditions. Whilst trying to make yourself understood with people who don't speak your native tongue.
The above could all be mental and physically draining, especially when the school is bleeding you dry in the first place!
Yes, plenty of mothers in the uk (and elsewhere) also put in a lot of time and effort, and they too are allowed to express that they are exhausted!
Good luck with it all.
Obviously not your preferred option- but were any of the schools you visited in the uk offering junior boarding?
Could you stop doing the swimming and get him a reading/writing tutor (but appreciate the boy will end up doing so much study out of school!)
What curriculum is the school following? Is there someone you can go and speak to- head of year? Head teacher? Would it be worth speaking to the other parents and making a joint complaint?
Just a few ideas!
Well, tbh, I think you need to get over yourself and pull your finger out.
You've found him a good school for when you are back in the UK - good first move. You clearly have no other schooling options where you are, or you'd have moved him.
He's clearly bright and happy to learn - all good. You've found him a tutor who can help him with maths - all good.
And the complaint is that you can't be bothered to put in the work to get him to the tutor? I don't get it.
You could always send him back to boarding school early if you can't manage to help him yourself. How exhausting can it be to work at home with him an hour a day and drive him to the tutor?
Have a read of some other threads here and see how much effort other parents are putting in to helping their children ith their learning, your input really isn't in the martyr territory.
Recommendations wise, have a look at WHSmith online and see if they'll send over some of the KS1 workbooks - there are plenty out there. Bond comes to mind as a good set of workbooks.
What about buying some work books? The school seems to be working at a much slower pace than the UK schools, is that because the only exams are at 18 so they have a long time to get there? Have a look online & see which books look good, there used to be some with wizards which were more fun than the 'straight' books. Good luck.
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