Long post- apologies in advance.
Was going to post this is AIBU - but i know im being unreasonable!! I have 2 kids - 8 and 3. They are lovely, bright and smart kids which I'm thankful for, but I think I push them too hard! My dd is only 3.6 and I'm so hung up on teaching her to read and write. She enjoys it most times but then I think I overdo it.
My ds is tops for everything in his state school. He's quite a sensible little boy who enjoys school, he's not struggling at all, but I always make him to workbooks almost daily. Again, he has days that he'd gladly do it, and days he'd grumble.
I just recently admitted to myself how important it is for ME for them to be on top, and I feel it's unfair on them and it probably comes across in my expectations of them.
My ds is moving to an independent school in September and he had a taster day last week, he told me all about the sports and fun things they did, trust me to be concerned about the academic work he did. And I found out he was not put on the top table! And I cant believe how much that bothered me! He couldn't care less! I've been so hung up on that - and I know immreally just being very unreasonable but I can't seem to be able to help myself.
I had a good education and I have a great job, and I'm quite busy, so it's not that I'm trying to make them do what I wasn't able to. But I just realized that maybe their success affirms me in some sort of way! I'm used to always hearing fab comments about them, that I don't think I can handle hearing anything else.
I don't know how to get out of this cycle and just let them be kids and enjoy themselves, top table or not!
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Dmummyd · 26/06/2012 20:58
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