Problems with Lunchtime Supervisor!

[ritaskeeter]

Since starting back in September, DD1, who has just turned 10, has had lots of problems with one particular playground dinner lady. On several occasions DD1 has benn punished for minor things whilst her friends have ben let off. The children once a week (one year each day) can play in the new basketball and football pitches at playtime, however this lady is reapetedly banning DD1 on her day, it seems to have stemmed from early on n the year when the whole class were banned (because one boy kicked the ball after the whistle had gone!) but DD1 kicked the ball back to the other group and so was banned on her own the following week.
This is just one example, but what has got to me ths week is DD1 was talking to her old teacher and told him a silly joke, he laughed and said I thought you were an intelligent girl, dinner lady butts in to conversation with well maybe she was when she was in your class, but she's not anymore. Has she any right to make comments like that. I have spoken in the past to her class teacher, but she said it is nothing to do with her and I would have to speak to the headmaster. Is this too extreme? I have told DD1 to stay out of her way, but she says she follows her round.(you have to allow for the exagerations of a 10 year old!)What do others think

[Mud]

bullies shoudl be confronted and you have to speak to head

[Rianna]

No, this is not to extreme : go to the head.
Dinner ladies have done an awful lot of harm to my daughter, same sort of things as your case.
In the end my child was completely changed, lost her confidence etc.

[hercules]

I would speak to the head.

[edgetop]

im a lunchtime supervisor at a junior& infants school, i dont think its right the way your daughter is been treat by this ls, i would ask to see the head, & sort it out. i feel that at dinnertime its their time to let off steam, chat to friends do what they like. i only step in if i can see they are hurting each other, name calling, or going in areas they shouldnt be in.if she had kick the ball when i was there i would have called her to me & warned her not to do it again, then she had fair warning. there has to be rules& you have to be firm, but you can do it in a nice way. i treat the children like i would my own son ( he is at the school).