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Babymay Sun 28-Aug-11 10:04:21

hi, just wanted your opinions. Do you think all girls schools are better than mixed sex schools? Just thinking of which schools to apply for for our DD??

Ladymuck Sun 28-Aug-11 10:33:11

They can be, but not necessarily! It is worth looking at all of the schools in your area that you are eligible for, and seeing which suits your dd the best.

I have 2 boys. The eldest thrived in an all boys school, the youngest didn't, but instead has made great progress in a mixed environment. There isn't really a single rule - you need to consider your child and how she best learns.

Assuming that you are going down the private school route, if you are looking at smaller schools with a single class per yeargroup, it is worth considering whether or not your specific year group will have a skew. It is not unknown for a class to have say 12 boys and 3 girls, which would have a limiting effect of firendships for the girls.

TalkinPeace2 Sun 28-Aug-11 16:48:33

It depends
on the school
on the child
on the family

I went to all girls GDST
my kids are at mixed state comp
I know I have made the right decision based on the above criteria

exoticfruits Sun 28-Aug-11 17:03:10

I went to both myself and preferred mixed. They tended to be sex mad at the single sex and there was terrific pressure to have a boyfriend, as opposed to a boy as a friend.
I would however agree with TalkinPeace2.

follygirl Sun 28-Aug-11 19:19:53

I went to an all girls' school as does my dd now.

I think that statistically girls are supposed to do better in a single sex environment although boys are supposed to do better in a mixed environment.

My dd's school is selective and it suits her, it just happens to be single sex.

I find that the girls at her school are less boy crazy than my friend's dd who goes to a mixed school but again that could just be my dd and her friends. It could also be their age of course as she is only young.

I also have a son so it's not as if my daughter is not used to mixing with boys. In fact she is very happy that she doesn't go to school with boys.

I would choose the school which suits your child and not be too concerned about whether it's co-ed or not.

Maryz Sun 28-Aug-11 19:25:34

It depends. Do you have boys as well? Because I have this theory that single/mixed sex schools don't make a huge amount of difference to the children, especially at primary, but they make a huge difference to parents who have children of both sexes and juggle different holidays, different school plays/services/prizegivings/sports day etc.

The only thing that does annoy me is parents who send their boys to mixed sex schools and their daughters to single sex. If you believe in mixed for your sons (and want them to have my daughter in their classes to improve the standard of behaviour or to practice life with hmm), don't "protect" your daughter by sending her to a girl-only school. I don't like the double standards.

I know a lot of parents who do this [bitter].

I do agree, by the way, that some girls from single sex schools are sex mad. And some boys from single sex schools can be very dismissive of any sort of feminist principles. These types of attitudes do tend to be squashed a bit at mixed-sex secondaries. The girls stop the boys being to pratt-ish, and the boys stop the girls from being too hysterical.

(In my opinion).

Babymay Sun 28-Aug-11 22:00:50

Thank you all for your opinions. Will take it all on board. Still as confused.

Lizcat Mon 29-Aug-11 15:18:39

I attended a selective single sex girls school that had a good social calender with the local boys schools until I was 16. I then attended a mixed sex sixth form.
I only have a girl and for her I have selected a selective single sex school. One of the reasons for me was that my DD has some hearing problems and her particular pitch problems mean that 'boy noise' is one of the most painful noises for her, due to the pitch of their voices. However, I do ensure that she is exposed to boys in small groups on a regular basis.

chill1243 Tue 30-Aug-11 10:42:44

I have a hunch that children find it easier to concentrate in single gender classes. But there are other things to consider. Socialisation etc. Its a tricky one.

mrswoodentop Tue 30-Aug-11 11:29:24

I was educated in single sex schools and ended up fine so generally am in favour.Where we live though there are no single sex options for boys either state or private so our boys are all co ed.There is a girls independent and although it pains me to say it the girls without exception seem to be boy mad,ds1(17) on the other hand has lots of friends who are girls and doesn't seem to think anything of it.
We also had an interesting experience this weekend with some close friends whose daughters 17 and 14 are at a fairly well known selective girls school.We see them fairly infrequently but the two families are close and I love the girls but boy did they seem in turns naive and in turns arrogant in their certainties about life ,the boys seemed very tentative in comparison.The real world to my boys and the real world to these girls seemed like two very different places.They were so sure that they would get into the best universities,so clear about what they wanted from universities and life there that I was taken aback ,I did think I am afraid that they were in for a rude awakening when they finally leave the bubble hmm

sugarfoot Tue 30-Aug-11 11:51:06

I have two girls who are now out the other end and both went to single sex secondary schools. To generalise: they both have good strong supportive groups of female friends, which their friends who went to co-ed schools don't seem to have. Co-ed educated friends have always been much more concerned about appearance. Younger daughter in particular went to year 7 disco at local boys' school and has ever since socialised with large mixed group. Older daughter moved to co-ed sixth form and loved it but was glad she hadn't been there all along.

poppleton Tue 30-Aug-11 12:00:44

This is the best argument for single sex schools I've ever read:

http://www.ncgs.org/the-case-for-girls-schools/

Convinces me anyway!!

singinggirl Tue 30-Aug-11 12:04:45

I taught for one year part time in a girls' school having taught mixed sex otherwise. I did notice a high level of bitchiness, and a fairly high proportion of sex-mad girls compared to what I had seen elsewhere. I feel the mixed sex environment does level the playing field, boys are more open minded about feminist issues, and girls are less bitchy. Not the best advertisement for the school when outside every morning and evening, the girls are attached by the lips to the boys from next door who they haven't seen for the last seven hours!

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