calling all Yr 1 Teachers [grin]

[mjp185]

Actually, this is a semi serious post, and I'm only looking for a different point of view or opinion.

Do you find if a child aged 6 is a bit boisterous you begin to accentuate his bad behaviour and little things they do become major incidents? Also does a minor incident, like being reminded to sit quietly in assembly, make you only see all the negative behaviour for the rest of the day ( cloud the rest of the day if you like)

Please don't think this is a post to get at teachers, because it defo isn't!!!!!!!!!1

I just feel like my child is excruciatingly abnormal in his behaviour!

Thanx in anticipation.

[mjp185]

Am off to work now so won't be back until tonight....

[robbinxmaspud]

Actually a little bit the opposite.. tend to mentally enclose them in a more nebulous version of our behaviour policy, to work hard at catching them being good and trying hard, to find out whether anything unusual is happeneing at home and then if things are still not manageable to consider talking to parents.
they are little, havn't been in sschool long, are making transistion from foundation to ks 1 and can be very up and down. plus as temr goes on they get tired.
Are you parent, teacher or the one who can't sit still in assembly?

[mjp185]

Ok here goes...
Robinx - I am a parent, and couldn't sit still in assembly either!

Shepards W - ds1 is eldest in his class. We never had any complaints in reception, but since starting yr1 he's a different boy. DS has a very mature head on his shoulders, even the teacher acknowledges this.

Basically there are a few of them who are boisterous, but not abnormally so I don't think.

Anyway to cut a long story very brief, ds has a book which is to be filled in daily by teacher and parent, although I must admit I don't do it everyday, It is called a good boy book, but there seems to be a problem every day, he's fidgeted on the carpet, talked in assembly, not followed instructions, other teachers have commented etc etc. There are good comments and stars also, but the book seems to highlight every little thing, some of which is just characteristic of a 6 yo boy,
I feel like the teacher expects me to somehow change him, I love him to bits and I love his character, i don't want to change him.

As you can see its really upsetting me.

I feel like burning the bl*y book!

[mjp185]

Ok here goes...
Robinx - I am a parent, and couldn't sit still in assembly either!

Shepards W - ds1 is eldest in his class. We never had any complaints in reception, but since starting yr1 he's a different boy. DS has a very mature head on his shoulders, even the teacher acknowledges this.

Basically there are a few of them who are boisterous, but not abnormally so I don't think.

Anyway to cut a long story very brief, ds has a book which is to be filled in daily by teacher and parent, although I must admit I don't do it everyday, It is called a good boy book, but there seems to be a problem every day, he's fidgeted on the carpet, talked in assembly, not followed instructions, other teachers have commented etc etc. There are good comments and stars also, but the book seems to highlight every little thing, some of which is just characteristic of a 6 yo boy,
I feel like the teacher expects me to somehow change him, I love him to bits and I love his character, i don't want to change him.

As you can see its really upsetting me.

I feel like burning the bl*y book!

[Passionflowerinapeartree]

WTF. What a very stupid idea. DD1's class have a beautiful chart with giant flowers and butterflys on. (all girls school) Their names are on bits of card and if they do something good they get to have their name stuck on a butterfly. I think undesirable behaviour is dealt with at the time then forgotten about. Very serious bad behaviour and teacher discusses with parent.

I would ask the teacher what the point of the book is. You can't do anything about the sorts of things you mention (ie fidgeting) hours after the fact.

[Passionflowerinapeartree]

PS am not a teacher though. Probably one will ba around in a mo to explain about the book.

I would want to burn it too.

[mjp185]

No not everyone has a book.

The boys like to have a bit of 'rough play' at playtimes but they are good friends, I thought it was just boys being boys,

I had a phone call at work because DS1 had headbutted another child and made their nose bleed!!!!!!! DS1 is no angel but that was really out of character, he was in big trouble for that one. Deputy head said he had done it maliciously but turns all 3 were head butting each other in 'game' so that they could go inside at playtime and get an ice pack and a sticker!!! Spoke to mother of headbutted child and apologised but she was fine and said her DS1 had said it wasn't done nastily.

Anyway, spoke to him about that, just worried I guess, that he has been branded a disruptive pupil and that he will live up to this.

If teachers expect him to misbehave then he will I think.
I have even thought about moving him but this is really drastic and I'm prob just being super sensitive.

[mjp185]

Oh and the daily gripe this week is that he wont concentrate on the dance for the school play, what do I do about that!

Poss got something to with the fact that he finds being dressed up as a christmas tree very embarrasing and he is realy self conscious about it........Can't say I blame him!

[crimbocrazydazy]

Not sure if they do this at DD's school as she has never really been in any kind of trouble but its seems very wrong and I bet upsetting for you too.

[mjp185]

DH says I need to calm down about the book!

He is of course right, it is only a book, there's just something so upsetting seeing it written on paper. And you can tell by the tone if teach has written it when angry! Poor boy, he has openly admitted that he doesn't like school or his teacher (who is actually quite nice when you talk to her, but very young, poss not used to 6 yo boys)

I could do with some ideas to try and encourage him to embrace school and enjoy it, I feel so awful sending him, he sulks on the way there and he sulks on the way home.

Can't get out of him what it is he doesn't like,except he says he wants to be the teacher so he doesn't get told what to do! hope he doesn't turn into a rebellious, marilyn Manson type teenager when he's older!

[Passionflowerinapeartree]

If I were you.... I'd make an apt to speak to the teacher about everything. If I wasn't satisfied I'd consider moving him.

It doesn't seem from what you say that they are managing your DS's behaviour well, if it continues it is I think it's going to undermine your DS's confidence and maybe cause other problems.

[paolosgirl]

DD's Primary 1 teacher seemed to take a dislike to my very dreamy daughter. Our entire first parent's night with her was spent discussing the fact that DD spent too long getting ready for gym, took her bobbles out of her hair every day, and forgot to hand in her homework.

When DH asked what we could do to help, her teacher had no real suggestions, so it was up to me to come up with ideas, which fortunately worked. This year, she has a fab teacher who recognises and rewards all the good work the kids do - which is great! She still makes it clear when she's not happy with their behaviour, though.

I hate to say it, but I do think a small minority of teachers act unprofessionally, and allow their personal feelings towards a child get in the way.

[robbinxmaspud]

I would just lose the book and swear blind it is at school!

[mjp185]

I tried that one and it was immediatly replaced