I am so not lookig forward to taking my 9 year old to his after school activites next week. It is such a hassle. I get home from work, scrabble around getting both 9 year old and 4 year old in the car. Drive son to the venue, whisk my 4 year old home again, we just get settled indoors when it's time to drive off collect my 9 year old. OK, many times my dh helps, but even so it cuts into our winding down evening time no end. Makes juggling meal eating and preparation and homework even more difficult.
That's just one of my hates.
Another is after my sacrifice (and my 4 year old's too - I sometimes feel all I am doing is dumping him in and out of the car) too often I get an extracurricular teacher saying something like 'your son must buckle down and try harder' My son likes going to cubs, judo etc, but sees these activites as a place to meet friends and let off steam and really just pays lip service to the leader's aims of teaching him a new skill. Perhaps I am being too competitive - I probably am - but I expect more from him if I am giving time and money to let him experience a new sport etc. It actually makes me really angry sometimes, especially when I know some of his friends are managing to learn as well as having fun. And I resent getting angry then having an argument about trying harder with my son, and the ensuing bad feeling all round, when the activity is a voluntary one that we don't have to do in the first place.
I know these activites help us discover if he has any hidden talents or leanings, but if I tried to incorporate music, drama, singing (his teacher says he should give these a go) as well as swimming, cricket, judo, (his preferred sports) and cubs into his week, he'd only come back home to sleep and I would be a wreck and his brother would be getting pressure sores from spending his time sitting in his carseat.
Then there's the quandry over whether it's OK to drop one activity in preference for another. My son likes cricket more than judo, for instance. He seems to try harder at cricket too (he went on course during the holidays) But is it OK to flit from one activity to another? Should I teach him to persevere? I have decided that more than 2 activities a week after school is way too much, unless they are ones he does at school after hours. So this means he has to drop some activites, like cubs, if he is to take on new ones.
I am getting so fed up with the whole thing. It has been really nice having a rest over the summer holidays. I am so tempted not to start on the activity treadmill again. Yet I know some parents ferry several children from one club to the next every evening. How do they do it?
Also, I've got this nagging feeling that breadth of extracurrucilar activity and achievment (ha!) can count in a child's favour when it comes to getting into secondary school. I've heard that some year 5 parents start sending their child to all sorts of things just for this reason. Is this true?
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I hate extracurricular activities
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tigermoth · 06/09/2003 09:48
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