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Advice please! Do I have a leg to stand on? Considering reporting the "other buyer". Warning: Long.

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boogiewoogie Thu 10-Jul-08 19:28:13

Is it common for bidders who have lost out to contact the winning bidder?

Here's my story:

I've recently purchased a rare one of a kind vintage item of clothing from Canada after scouring the internet for months. This item was listed back in April at $80, I fell in love with it but didn't buy it straight away since I've never had experience with buying from abroad before. I've kept it on my favourites list since then but after weeks of not being able to find anything similar in the UK I decided that enough was enough and purchased it last week although I didn't pay immediately as I was on a public computer. Paid for it once I got home. Pleasantly surprised to find that it had reduced to $40 so paid $55 including delivery. One day later I received a shipping and order confirmation e-mail. Oh good, can't wait.

Later that day, seller e-mails to say that another buyer has requested my contactdetails as she wants to buy it off me. I reply thanks but no thanks. Seller replies absolutely fine.

A week later, item arrives and I totally fall in love with it, fits like a dream. I leave positive feedback for seller. Feedback is shown in seller's profile. So this morning I receive 4 messages from persistent "other buyer" offering to buy dress from me. In the most recent one, she has told a sob story about how she has spent ages trawling the internet for a dress like mine and that she cried over not being able to buy the dress. Apparently the seller had reduced the item especially for her and that she had kept it listed as a mistake. Seller only contacted me about her wanting to buy the item the day it was shipped! Basically she's telling me that I swiped it from under her nose. She's offered to buy it at the original price or swap it for the one that she ended up buying. As if!

At first I empathised with her as I would have kicked myself if I hadn't bought it sooner but I don't think that anyone deserves this dress less than she does and it does not belong to anyone until they've paid for it. I think I'll just ignore it for now but if I receive more messages like this, is it worth reporting?

claricebeansmum Thu 10-Jul-08 19:29:40

Just ignore.

Tough luck - you got in there first

bubblagirl Thu 10-Jul-08 19:36:30

maybe someone who knows can make good profit or maybe for wedding or something but either way you have won it

tell her kindly that you also have wanted this for ages your very sorry but you bid fair and square and won this item or bought it however it was done

and ask kindly to stop e mailing you and block e mails from her

mumfor1standmaybe2ndtime Thu 10-Jul-08 19:40:31

The item was listed, you bought it, you paid for it, they shipped it to you. End of!

Ignore all contact, whatever you do don't start giving out any personal details. Could be a scam. Just ignore and move on.

boogiewoogie Thu 10-Jul-08 19:44:39

Thanks for support. I think it's also best to ignore.

missfib Thu 10-Jul-08 22:03:14

you won the item fair and square ignore this women.

MummyLovesPrams Thu 10-Jul-08 22:05:05

Definately just ignore her - strange lady!

BettySpaghetti Thu 10-Jul-08 22:10:25

I would ignore too.

BTW pleeeaaaase tell us about this dress. Describe it (or link to it) I'm intrigued as to why shes so obsessed about getting it smile

boogiewoogie Fri 11-Jul-08 10:24:23

Here's the dress

MummyLovesPrams Fri 11-Jul-08 11:58:40

Very pretty - tough t*ts to her wink

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