I have just recieved yet ANOTHER rude and aggressive e-mail from Seller. It has only been 3 days since the end of the auction.
I e-mailed immediately and asked how to pay and how to pick up and got an e-mail back saying pay via paypal and wouldn't discuss pick up (or even tell me the actual address of the item) until after payment cleared.
Then, children became ill, had to attend docs.. Didn't check my emails for approx. 24 hours and I've been bombarded with emails from the seller demanding payment. I replied to the last one, explaining the situation and asking again about pick up.
4 more emails later - STILL no address and more and more aggressive.
WHat happens if I simply say, sod it. I'm not buying it. I have 100% feedback and have never not completed a transaction before (almost 1000 feedbacks)
Thanks for any advice.
I will call ebay tomorrow, but it's eating me up now.
you will get a non paying bidder strike if the seller opens a case against you. Just 1 won't affect your account. They obviously can't leave you a neg feedback, and if you don't respond to the case you are unable to leave any feedback.
your seller is silly to ask for paypal for a collection only item. You could pay, go and collect then file a claim for item not received and get your money back.
You should tell them all sensible sellers only accept cash for collection only items unless they want to risk losing their goods and their money!
Thing is, it's quite expensive (couple of hundred quid) so I was surprised he was adament about paypal after the auction (auction listing states cash is OK - I have checked)
The thing that freaks me out is I don't know where I would be picking it up from. I will have my two kids with me and he (see, I'm calling him a 'he' because of the tone of his e-mails) but they are signed 'cathy'
When I e-mailed him to say that the children had been ill and I hadn't checked my emails, he emailed back imediately saying that it would have been quicker to paypal him the money than to send the (explaining) email and s/he didn't care about my children. Ended with 'FFS!'
I have written back and said I would pay cash and to provide delivery details. GOt an email back telling me to stop messing him about and send him the money.
Why would they be so adament about paypal when they will be liable for fees. And why no address... And why so aggressive after such a short space of time? The auction only ended on Friday!!
Don't do it. I had a very similar situation, not here in UK, and although my seller wasn't rude, insisted i pay before the pickup details. I did and yep never heard anything or got anything. Managed to get some money back only after getting my bank involved who fought on my behalf. Absolute nightmare. Doesn't at all mean most are like this but now my gut says, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Oh and sellers cannot leave comments about buyers, only buyers about sellers. Good luck!
Agree with fergoose - if all emails are through eBay, they can see how horrible and aggressive this person is. Contact eBay and explain that you feel threatened as you are a woman and would be alone picking up the item, you don't feel like you can go through with the sale, and that they have been completely unreasonable by refusing to tell you where to pick it from in the first place.
I would email back and say that it state you can pay cash in the auction but as they clearly don't want to accept cash you are happy to mutually withdraw from the sale as you're not happy to pay paypal when you don't know where you have to collect it from.
If you did pay by paypal it isn't dodgy - you could easily get your money back if the item was not as expected and you decided not to go ahead with the purchase, but it is the sellers rudeness and unwillingness to communicate which is the worrying factor here I reckon.