He is coming from a loving place and genuinely is just trying to help, but he doesn't understand or even try to understand my ED.
He talks to me all of the time about food. He is on a diet, and has developed an obsession with food and meal planning etc. Which is great. But he is trying to get me to apply the same plans for my eating. Because of his diet, he has upped his "encouraging" words to me lol.
I've got no issue with him talking about food or dieting. That doesn't bother me. Its him thinking that if I just done the same as him, all would be well. Which it no doubt would, only this has been an almost lifelong condition for me. So it's not something I could just change, no matter how much I wanted to.
Comments like "just put it in your mouth and move your mouth up and down. It's simple" really irritate me.
Telling me to have my breakfast, dinner, tea, supper and biscuits or chocolate with every cup of tea I have. Then gets frustrated when I say that I couldnt do that.
At the minute, I am lucky if I can get one meal in a day. He thinks it is as easy as it sounds to just have all of those meals. It's really not.
I cant remember the last time he spoke to me and it didn't involve food. I think that is what is bugging me. I understand his concern and appreciate he is only wanting to help, but I am getting frustrated.
Just needed to vent.
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Eating disorders
My dad is trying to help, but doing my head in
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TheChip · 02/02/2021 10:41
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