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To give up binge eating, do i need to give up dieting?

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shouldaknownbetter Tue 09-Jan-18 08:27:00

I seem to be caught in a binge-diet cycle somewhere between binge eating disorder and bulimia. I will heavily restrict carbohydrates (ketosis dieting) to lose 7-10 lbs within 2-3 weeks, and then end up binging it back on. Christmas was terrible.. I'd lost 10lbs and finally felt good about my body and then had 3 weeks of horrible binging and hate my body again. At one point I literally couldn't stop eating every evening, although that has abated now thank goodness.

I know I need to get off the rollercoaster, and I've read 'Brain over Binge' and think it makes a lot of sense.

Problem is, the old diet voice is saying to diet one last time so I can get the weight off before I resolve my bingeing problem. I want to give up bingeing but not at this weight IYSWIM.

But I don't know if dieting will make me binge again as a reaction? When I diet, I don't go hungry but I do cut out all carbs so it is very restrictive in terms of what you can eat... ketosis is a natural appetite supressant and I can get by on quite little if I am fully in ketosis.

Is it possible to lose weight without bingeing, maybe if I go a little slower? Has anyone resolved this problem and were you able to lose weight whilst doing it, or do I need to choose between losing weight and resolving my ED?

IDSNeighbour Tue 09-Jan-18 23:41:36

Extreme dieting will lead to bingeing. You already know that. It's just so difficult to break the all or nothing cycle, isn't it!

I'm sure it is possible to diet sensibly. But perhaps not at the moment, for you. You don't need to choose between losing weight and resolving your ED permanently - but I think resolving the ED should come first.

You might well find that sensible, regular eating that isn't dieting or binge eating leads to natural weight loss anyway.

Are you able to talk to your GP about this. If you can get access to the CBT and potentially the follow up CBTE counselling programme that goes alongside the book 'Overcoming Binge Eating' I think it would be really helpful for you. Or even just read the book alone.

Noregrets25 Wed 10-Jan-18 18:46:11

Hello, in answer to you posts title, yes, 100% you need to give up dieting to stop bingeing. I’ve had eating disorders on and off for 15 years. The only long periods of time when I’ve been ok, I have stopped trying to but out certain foods or lose weight. If you struggle with ‘normal’ eating try looking at something like slimming world. Although it calls itself a diet it’s actually just sensible eating. Nothing is forbidden and you don’t go hungry. It’s basically just healthy eating, swapping things oil for the spray oil and stuff like that. Cutting out whole food groups has always lead me into the bulimia cycle.

BluebellTheDonkey Wed 10-Jan-18 18:51:15

Have a look at the NoS diet. Not a diet in the traditional sense but more a way of learning how to eat with moderation and form a healthy relationship with food. It has helped me end years of yoyo dieting. No snacks, no sweets, no seconds except for days beginning with S - weekends and special days like birthdays. There's a thread running on here and a website with loads of info.

OneMoreOne Wed 10-Jan-18 18:59:55

Interested in both of the books mentioned as in a very similar situation. flowers OP.

shouldaknownbetter Fri 12-Jan-18 21:25:33

Update, so I've been trying to eat 'normally' the last week and not diet. And I haven't binged once ! I've had a couple of times where I've maybe eaten a bit more of a treat than was ideal, but that's not a binge in my book (of the 'stuff in as much as you can continuously until you are about to puke up through being so full' variety).

Although I can sometimes overeat when stressed or bored I think by far the biggest reason I binge is because I am either about to go on a diet (the old 'I'll start tomorrow' excuse) or I've just come off a diet.

I am beginning to see how counter productive diets are. I am (only very slightly to be fair) overweight because I binge, and I binge because I diet... therefore I am overweight because I diet. The logic is all backwards.

I am going to try and just eat healthily and exercise for a bit but also have some planned treats to avoid feeling deprived. It's so hard to get the balance right. But it's been nice to have a holiday from binging, that's for sure.

edibleweirdo Sat 13-Jan-18 16:04:51

I think you do have to give up dieting. I too have had 'success' with ketosis but overall it doesnt stop my BED. I started eating normally in october. not at all restricting myself, ever. I haven't binged since and a whole load of health symptoms have stopped. I also haven't gained a single lb despite eating carbs and perhaps triple what I would normally have eaten in a day before.

However, today I am DISGUSTED by my body. I'm 3lb lighter than I am at my heaviest, but I'm still appalled as though I'm 2 dress sizes above what I am, and the temptation to starve is SO STRONG sad I allowed my husband to feed me a larggge piece of quiche at lunchtime even though I wanted to sew my lips up. sad so that's progress. It's really hard to resist that urge to diet though. I'm not sure what else I can do, my job is very manual, so I basically do gym everyday and don't overeat the calories I'm supposed to be allowed. So how exactly I'll lose weight rather than maintain without cutting down unhealthily or overexercising I don't know sad hopefully my metabolism will get better or something :/

anyway - resist!

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