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BraveButShaking Fri 17-Feb-17 17:46:50

He is referring me for psychiatric help.
What does this mean? I thought standard was counselling.

It has never been so hard to be honest. I need a hug...anyone?

BraveButShaking Fri 17-Feb-17 20:47:38

Guess not sad

InTheKitchenAtParties Fri 17-Feb-17 20:50:16

Do you want to tell us what led up to the Gp appointment Brave?

einalem1984 Fri 17-Feb-17 21:03:30

flowers so he's not referred you for counselling? That was the first thing my GP did when I had my ED x

BraveButShaking Fri 17-Feb-17 22:35:59

Thank you for replying.

It's been an issue for nearly a year, started during very stressful time in my life. Things have mostly settled down now (ongoing things but nothing too awful), but the ED hasn't improved as I convinced myself it would. It's got worse.

I have been trying to get courage to speak to GP and today the opportunity arose as I was going in for anti-d repeat.

If I don't take action now I don't know when I will stop. I have everything to live for now.

I felt so ashamed answering his questions.

PacificDogwod Fri 17-Feb-17 22:39:47

Please don't feel ashamed thanks

I am a GP and I can assure you I have an inkling how much strength and courage it takes to live with an ED and to come forward and talk about it to somebody else.

It sounds like your GP is suggesting to refer you to specialist ED series (usually comes under the heading of psychiatry) rather than 'standard' counselling and I think that's only right.

I hope you get some useful support and help from them.

BraveButShaking Fri 17-Feb-17 22:51:50

Thank you dogwood.
My GP has been supporting me this last year or so and has been great. I just feel so foolish - I'm not the together, professional woman I wanted him to think I was.

Do you have any idea how long the referral might take?
GP is taking bloods to check electrolytes.

No one else knows.

PacificDogwod Fri 17-Feb-17 22:56:49

No, waiting times vary widely around the country, sorry, can't help there.

Don't feel foolish.
You have done a difficult thing, and that takes strength and guts and smarts smile

Could you tell anybody else in RL? You know, problem shared and all that?

BraveButShaking Fri 17-Feb-17 23:13:49

I am not ready to tell anyone in RL, though a fair few would not be at all surprised (in a caring way).

People comment and I hate it, even from friends and family. I don't like people noticing odd behaviours.

einalem1984 Sat 18-Feb-17 00:30:03

I'm glad you're on the path to getting help now. The first step is admitting you have a problem so you've been really brave. ❤️
I know you'll feel ashamed and embarrassed talking about your ED but the more you talk about it the better you will be able to clarify your feelings. I found counselling helped me greatly but I remember the shame of talking about it to others and feeling silly. I hope you can get to a point where you get back in control of your feelings and body xx

BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 03:56:10

Can't sleep.
In an attempt to restore any electrolyte problems I've barely eaten a thing. Stupid. Not eating better than purging? I don't think so.

I was in an emotionally abusive marriage for many years. It's taken me 2 years to get out of it. He's been gone 4 months now.

einalem1984 Sat 18-Feb-17 05:55:50

Bless you, sounds like you've been through a lot. Well done for being brave enough to get out of your relationship, now you can begin to get your confidence back and rebuild your life.
No, not eating is just as bad as purging but I've been there and understand why you don't want to eat. Food is prob the one thing you feel you have control over? Voices in your head telling you you don't deserve food? It's really hard but please try to eat something, you need to get in control of your ED xx

Bluebellevergreen Sat 18-Feb-17 06:29:52

OP I was referred to a psychiatrist and this was the best thing that happened to me.
You will talk and they will listen, they are experts. This is good you will see smile

Bluebellevergreen Sat 18-Feb-17 06:31:49

you need to get in control of your ED not helpful for OPhmm she is taking steps and not so easy

OP try to have a banana, fruit and a little drink with a pinch of sugar and a pinch of salt for electrolites.

If you can


BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 07:13:48

No, there are no voices in my head telling me I don't deserve food.
I know I deserve good nutrition and I know how important it is.

I am a keen and good runner, which has helped me emotionally, i can't reconcile why I am taking my health and thus not be able to run.

I know a psychiatrist will help, it just feels so...I don't know...serious.

The GP asked whether I was happy. It took me a while to answer. I think I am, but I can't be, can I?

BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 07:15:02

blue that is encouraging.

Would you mind sharing the process, what I can expect?

picklemepopcorn Sat 18-Feb-17 07:33:05

flowersyou've been very brave. You'll get there.

einalem1984 Sat 18-Feb-17 10:31:10

When I said about getting in control of ED it wasn't meant as a criticism, I just know from personal experience that it can feel as if the ED is in control of you so it's getting a change of mindset to be in control of it instead.
Good you know that you deserve food, I was the opposite.

PacificDogwod Sat 18-Feb-17 10:51:10

I know a psychiatrist will help, it just feels so...I don't know...serious.

Well, that's because it is and maybe you are just coming round to the realisation of that.

"Happy" is so difficult to define, isn't it? Sounds like you've had a horrific time in your marriage and a headfuck like that can take some time for you to get an appreciation what other people would call 'normal', and then 'happy'.
People with a relaxed approach to food eat when they are hungry/have an appetite and stop when they are full. They do not think about food/eating, they do not calorie count, they do not worry about nutrition and electrolytes and fat and carbs and stuff. They just eat.

A psychiatrist should be able to help you unravel all this complex stuff.

BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 13:00:19

1984 I knew what you meant.

It absolutely does control me at the moment. It is all control, but it's tipped from something that I could reconcile as being a way to deal with my divorce into something else.

I have run 10 miles today with friends. Lovely.

And I have my little boy back with me today.

BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 19:00:37

Q. The bloods GP has asked for, will the nurse know the underlying reason ie is electrolyte testing done mainly for ED or other conditions as well? Will she see my records?

Small practice so nurse knows me well.

PacificDogwod Sat 18-Feb-17 21:11:33

The bloods typical done for EDs are really very standard - the nurse will not know from the blood tests why you are getting them done. A Full blood count, some iron/vitamin levels, electrolytes, renal/liver/thyroid functions, blood sugar - all done for all sorts of conditions.

Please don't worry what people think of you so much.
Cut yourself some slack.
EDs are common problems, you are not unique in battling with this, and any GP list will have people with EDs amongst them.

BraveButShaking Sat 18-Feb-17 22:14:21

Thank you dogwood

I had bloods done in the summer (GP wanted to do some when I was in the midst of hard time and has physical symptoms), and then again by a consultant for a DEXA scan (repeat stress fractures). All came out ok so I told myself I wasn't harming my body.
Strange logic I know, but we clutch at straws, don't we.

I am struggling with having come out with it. A big step and it's occupied my mind all day. It's made me look at my behaviours and acknowledge that I'm fucked up really.

BraveButShaking Tue 21-Feb-17 14:33:54

Just had a call from Mind to book me in for hosp appt. They said they normally do initial assessment over the phone, but wanted to do a face to face appt for me. It's in less than 2 weeks.

So, either we have very good services around here, or my GP referred me as urgent (can they do that?).

Bloody hell.

BeachysSnowyWellieBoots Tue 21-Feb-17 14:39:55

That's great news that it' come through quickly. I know that it's daunting, but the sooner you can see someone then the sooner you can start feeling better. flowers

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