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Relative using proanorexia websites

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CeciledeVolanges Sat 14-Jan-17 23:25:58

I've found out that a close relative of mine who has had severe anorexia uses proanorexia websites. They are younger than I am and I can't tell their parents or confront them directly (due to past history, denial and other issues I don't want to go into). They are studying at the moment. I feel totally hopeless and desperate to help. What is the responsible thing to do? What is the best thing to do?

CeciledeVolanges Sun 15-Jan-17 09:52:39

Hi, if anyone could reply I would be extremely grateful. My sister's illlness has destroyed years of my life let alone hers. I am desperate.

t875 Sun 15-Jan-17 13:03:05

maybe have a word with your relative and say i am very worried about you and if you dont stop i will tell your parents. I dont think you have much choice, let your relative know how concerned you are. My DD got into them websites and is now having CBT for wrong attitude towards eating and foods, if she didn't live with us she would be in a worse situation we truly believe.

All the best with making your decision.

I would also post this on the teenagers thread if she is /other boards to get more advise.

psychosexual Sun 15-Jan-17 13:04:44

Maybe it is helpful for her to have contact with people who understand?

lljkk Sun 15-Jan-17 13:25:50

If it was me there would be a straight up conversation about how scared I was for her, and how deluded those websites are. Try not to same "blame" things about her, but about those websites, blunt message.

Not harp on it many times.

Is this a person under 18?

CeciledeVolanges Sun 15-Jan-17 19:01:58

She is twenty and at university. I had a conversation with her this morning, but she refused to engage at all.

lljkk Sun 15-Jan-17 19:09:31

Of course she didn't engage. It's her security blanket. She has a self-narrative that she's in control & this is just a life style choice. Other people are deluded about what is an attractive body size if they argue there's such a thing as too thin (that's what the pro-anny sites say).

If you talk other people in her life about your concerns, then you have done as much as you can. Very sorry. flowers. It's a wretched disease.

Albadross Sun 15-Jan-17 19:10:39

Do you know which site?

CeciledeVolanges Sun 15-Jan-17 19:16:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

t875 Sun 15-Jan-17 22:12:37

Thats what my dd was looking it, it should be banned!! Probably best to Take it off the board any publicity for this isn't good. incase others come here and use it.

Good luck, i would def like another poster said let others know about your concerns.

CeciledeVolanges Sun 15-Jan-17 23:13:50

Reported my own post, then. Sorry.

t875 Mon 16-Jan-17 06:40:36

No problem atal, have you decided what you are going to do ?

Albadross Mon 16-Jan-17 17:51:51

Sorry I forgot the name probably shouldn't be on here - I just asked because I've had a fair bit of experience and some are less concerning then the names suggest

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