Hello, I'm currently sitting here feeding my two week son after successful iui last February using donor sperm.
My question is for those who have already had children using donor sperm.
I'll start by saying I absolutely love my son and I'm over the moon with him, he delights me and I love looking at him all day every day ( and night) and just can't imagine my life without him already.
I do look at him though and can't see any of myself or my family in him. I end up staring at him trying to imagine what this man I've never met ( his father) looked like. I guess I thought I would see something in him that would look like me or my family ( hair colour, nose, feet, lips etc) Did anybody else feel like this? I still love him but it just feels a little bit that I've been given a baby rather than he's mine. That sounds strange but I hope someone understands what I mean.
Second thing that then plays on my mind at 2am in the morning is how do I know What the donor has said is true? I never thought to ask this at my clinic's seminar ( I went to LWC and used sperm from London Sperm Bank).
So I don't know if he was truthful about his educational or hobbies for instance. He also wrote a pen letter about himself and his family which is lovely but what if it's not real? Do the sperm bank check these things? Did anybody else ask this question?
Grateful for anyone's advice or thoughts they had following birth of their child(ren) xxx
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TreasureInMyTummy · 03/12/2017 02:17
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