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Has anyone donated eggs?

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HappyFeet9 Wed 25-Jan-17 15:50:55

I'm a regular but have NC'ed.

I'm in my early twenties, I regulate each month but do have long cycles but I definitely ovulate. I don't have any children of my own, it's not something I am bothered about, if it happens great if not that's also OK.

I'd love to donate my eggs and have been thinking of it for a while. I'd like to hear other peoples opinions/experiences. I have done a little research and CARE fertility seems to be the one i'm drawn to the most.

Any help/advice/experiences are appreciated.

HappyFeet9 Wed 25-Jan-17 15:51:17

That should say I have regular periods each month, not regulate blush

Userfriendly Wed 25-Jan-17 16:38:13

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Kannet Wed 25-Jan-17 16:46:46

What a truly horrible thing to say. Donating eggs is a wonderful thing to do, although it's uncomfortable and requires minor surgery( egg retrieval). Maybe go to your gp and let them talk you through it first

Kannet Wed 25-Jan-17 16:48:54

Can I add, I had my son through donated eggs and it's the best gift anyone could have given me. #userfriendly. I'm guessing you have never experienced the heartbreak of infertility.

Surreyblah Wed 25-Jan-17 16:48:55

That's extreme and not at all friendly user !

There are a lot of personal and health issues to consider.

BriantheWife Thu 26-Jan-17 01:31:35

Egg donors are mothers who abdicate responsibility for their children.

This is just incorrect, in many respects. I wonder what experience User has, if any?

HappyFeet9 Thu 26-Jan-17 07:31:15

DP has 2 children from a previous relationship and we've been together a while. The conversation has always been he's more than happy with two, if in the future I wanted my own (which is something I've never felt i'd want) then he would be happy to try for one. Whilst I appreciate things and feelings change, I think i'd be happy without any and have felt like this all my life.

I see the heartbreak infertility causes through my best friend and close family members. If I can help out I would love too.

Thank you for all your kind responses, I think i'll have an initial conversation with my GP.

Kannet Thu 26-Jan-17 09:21:39

It's such a lovely thing to do, it's not easy but it's brave. Just make sure the gp/ gyne talks you through all the possible side effects

janinlondon Thu 26-Jan-17 09:33:11

Would really urge you to look in detail into the actual procedures. I was hospitalized twice with OHSS during workup, and as a result of a problem during retrieval had to have major surgery. All of which was worth it because I wanted my child more than anything in the world. I'm not saying any of that will happen to you, but you should be aware. The process from start to retrieval is not at all easy.

HelenDenver Thu 26-Jan-17 09:38:07

AFAIK donating eggs doesn't prevent OP bearing children in future, user, your deeply unpleasant post has no place here.

Look into the effects on yourself op but it is a lovely thing you want to do.

mammmamia Thu 26-Jan-17 22:05:17

OP it's a lovely thing you want to do but do research it. You are very young to have made the decision not to have any children of your own. Of course egg donation doesn't preclude that but you might find you feel differently once you've been through that.

Astoria7974 Mon 30-Jan-17 17:06:15

It's a lovely thought, but with the aggressive way eggs are retrieved (early menopause is a risk), you are better off doing this only when you need IVF yourself (most ivf places will either treat you for free/give you heavy discount if you donate eggs while doing IVF). Speak to an IVF clinic for more information.

NellWilsonsWhiteHair Sun 12-Feb-17 18:48:38

I donated eggs last summer and am doing so again ATM (stimming right now - egg retrieval this coming week). I'm glad I've done it - and although I was a high responder and v uncomfortable in the days following ER last time, it clearly wasn't bad enough to put me off going again!

My son was conceived with the help of a sperm donor so it seemed a good thing to pay forward. Plus I knew from experience that parenthood is different from gamete donation, so it was emotionally an easy thing for me. I'd be fascinated to meet any children born from my eggs one day, but I don't feel any sort of involved attachment. The recipient couple of my first donation left a really lovely card for me on the day of ER - I was very touched by their words and it really affirmed for me how glad I was to help them. When the nurse told me they'd got their BFP I was absolutely delighted for them.

I always wanted a child of my own and I'd not have felt ready to donate before having one. I think I'd have struggled if I'd had difficulty conceiving my own, knowing I'd already given away eggs to someone else. Everyone is different on this though. Now, I'd like one more of my own, but I'm at peace with the prospect of not managing that - well, if it turns out I can't, I expect I will be devastated, but no more so for having (hopefully) helped two other families conceive. If anything, I think that knowledge might console me.

I'm not massively concerned by the health risks - I've done two cycles of IVF, at a low dose, over one year of my life. Lots of women do much more than this, usually in pursuit of a family of their own. That said, I don't think I'll do it again after this one. If I manage to have another of my own, and wean while I'm still young enough to have another roll of the dice donating, I probably would do it - but I'm not sure the timing will work out.

I went through Altrui. I found the smiley-heavy enthusiasm of their communications sometimes cloying, but that's personal taste and nothing more. Beyond that, I found them highly professional and always extremely supportive, very keen to ensure I was personally committed as a donor from an informed perspective and without applying any pressure of their own. Although the clinic I had treatment at (Boston Place) were also always great, it was really reassuring to know that I had Altrui following my progress and ready to step in on my behalf if needed. I would recommend them without hesitation.

sims123 Sun 19-Feb-17 20:29:13

I am looking for an egg donor .Need a donor before may 19th of 2017 as i will turn 43 and nhs does not fund you once you turn 43. Any advice please

Littleelffriend Wed 29-Mar-17 20:30:59

Sims123 pm me please

Lshe Wed 10-May-17 20:19:12

I have donated eggs twice, one couple was unsuccessful and the other couple became pregnant. I was so happy for them I cried.
the process of injecting yourself daily and the bloating that comes with it isn't nice, but it's two weeks for the chance to change a couples lives forever.
the procedure itself was painless and quick, and I was under general anaesthetic, minimal bleeding and cramping and my cycle returned to normal within the month.

you can become pregnant after donating eggs. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant, and the couples got a total of 35 of my eggs between them. quite a large amount, it is one of the greatest things I have done, and I would do it again I heart beat.

good luck! x

Gifty2018 Wed 01-Nov-17 09:48:05

Currently looking for donor egg of Afro Caribbean ethnicity it’s been a struggle for this! Any help or advice is very welcome.

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