Hello
Firstly I want to start by saying that i am writing this to try and get my head around if i can go down the donor egg route as a personal choice, and i really hope that i dont offend anyone in any way - that really isnt my intention.
I have recently turned 40 and now had 3 x BFN IVF attempts. Ive been TTC for over 17 years and not once had even a positive pregnancy test.
The last 2 attempts of IVF ive been a very poor responder. Last cycle i had 3 eggs (only 1 fertilised) the cycle before i only got 1 egg full stop!
So im going for my review appointment next week with a different consultant and Im going to ask for the Immune tests before we cycle again. BUT im 99% certain they will suggest i try donor eggs seeing as im such a poor responder plus my Mum went through the menopause at 40 and looks like im not far off it myself.
Now the problem i have is that i think and analyse things far too much and im struggling to get my head around the donor egg situation so id really like to hear from anyone going through a similar situation and hear how you felt/feel about the process.
Ive thought about it for quite a while and although im pretty sure i would feel differently once the embryo was back inside me, its getting to that point that scares me. The thought of another womans eggs with my husbands sperm freaks me out somewhat. I know that the lady will be 'gifting' me those eggs, but until those eggs are in me then i cant see them as mine.
Also I have thought about if the cycle was successful and there was a child born from it, then telling that child about the donor egg would be very important to me as I always bang on about the importance of honestly & openess in a family & relationship... but then i keep visualising a 'Long lost family' type scenrio in 18 years time and that would break my heart.
Sorry for going on, i just thought it might put a few things into perspective if i heard from people receiving DE & also giving eggs too.
I know this will probably be my last best attempt to be a mum so i need to go into this feeling 100% positive and need some help getting to that stage :(
Bee x
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Littlebee76 · 13/09/2016 06:27
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