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Getting a divorce, feeling guilty, should I be?(2 Posts)
First time poster, just need a bit of support really.
Basically, my partner struggles with mh issues, I've looked after him since day one. He moved in after 1 month of being together. Got married 4 years after being together and now married for over a year.
For the past couple of months I'd been thinking about who I am and what I want and everything I did want, I don't want anymore. So I've decided to end my marriage. It sounds brutal but we don't have the same idea of our future anymore and I really need to figure out who I am. I think I got married before I was ready and now I have my SO family upset because they were expecting us to be together for a long time.
I'm just struggling right now, I know it was my decision but it doesn't make it any easier. I figured if we had stayed together I'd end up getting resentful towards him for not being able to do what I need to do (if that makes sense). Everyone seems to have the "oh it was your decision, you can't be sad", I mean I love my husband but I need to do this. I can't explain it any other way. I need to figure my life out. I'm only 25, I don't want any more years of this.
Am I a bad person?
I just, I don't know right now.
You are not a bad person at all. My marriage is stuggleing at the moment - we are having counselling and its me that feels that it might be over and I have never been so sad in my life. Would you consider the two of you speaking to someone- it might help.
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