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Help with filling in field for Unreasonable Behaviour please - how much detail?

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Sandgrain Thu 22-Oct-20 12:15:31

I am filing for the divorce on my own, I'm wondering how detailed should the information be? Does anyone have any examples they could paste from their own divorce.

I thought just bullet points would be OK but a friend said that I need to include details and examples rather than say, there's a toxic environment at home. Is this needed? It seems intrusive and also unnecessary? (The divorce isn't contested)

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explorerdog Thu 22-Oct-20 12:16:31

Examples were needed for mine 18 years ago

RandomMess Thu 22-Oct-20 12:54:37

Have you had a google, try to avoid anything to contentious.

Someone on legal has posted a list with examples before but no idea how to find it.

I would think there are things on google that you can adapt.

waterSpider Thu 22-Oct-20 20:48:30

Can include all kinds. Depends on whether the ex is basically agreeable to the divorce - and hence it is just a bit of a 'hurdle' to jump - or if there are bigger issues.

He does not support me pursuing my interests (and I do not support him doing his). For example we argue if I want to (e.g.) go for a long cycle ride.
We never say that we love each other.
He spends a lot of time away from the house, when I have asked him not to.
We no longer want to have sex with each other.

That kind of thing.

Familylawsolicitor Mon 26-Oct-20 23:51:41

It needs to be focused on his behaviour to you. So the example about “we no longer want to have sex with each other” wouldn’t work as it’s mutual.
Say for each example 1) what he did / does 2) how it makes you feel 3) when it happened. You need around 4-6 examples.

Eg

1 The Respondent criticises me for minor things. It makes me feel unsupported. He has done this throughout the marriage.

2 The Respondent stopped paying me compliments around 5 years ago. This makes me feel unloved.

3 The Respondent doesn’t want to socialise with me. This has been the case for about 2 years. This makes me feel like we are not a real couple.

pointythings Tue 27-Oct-20 11:19:06

Familylawsolicitor has it in a nutshell. This is how I did mine. I did 4 examples, but the first was his alcohol addiction and associated behaviour and that was a biggie.

ClumsyAnnabel Tue 27-Oct-20 11:20:57

The first thing, the last thing, and the straw that broke the camels back is how my solicitor summed it up.

Raver84 Tue 27-Oct-20 18:35:37

I did mine recently it was. My husband has done x, it made me feel y.
I did 5 examples. All no more than a couple of sentences each one.

Survived1 Sun 08-Nov-20 21:45:54

I have put doestic violent that happend yeats ago (no police record) however I have been told that I have to go to court for that as a sparate matter. U was gut smack

TirisfalPumpkin Thu 12-Nov-20 11:54:19

"The first thing, the last thing, and the straw that broke the camels back "

My solicitor advised the same smile

I put

1. his lack of domestic contribution
2. his emotional abuse and aggression
3. his cheating and paying young women for sex

It felt a bit of an odd order as the last one was obviously the catalyst for the divorce, but apparently that's the way to do it. I gave approximate or specific dates, where I knew them, and added a 'that made me feel...' sentence to each.

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