I left my partner of 11 years last year. It was a very unhappy relationship (on my part) and my ex was an emotional and mental bully to me for years without me realising. He didn't help with the children, shopping, housework. I did it all on my own. I was a single mum in a relationship. Our children could not be children because he would moan and shout at the first sign of them 'misbehaving' or 'fighting' (their boys and thats what boys do but he never saw it like that). He never did parents evenings, homework, nothing. I would take them out on my own and come home to a pile of washing up to do and would have to cook, wash up bath kids, put them to bed, do school runs while balancing work life. My friends or family couldn't come over because he made them feel uncomfortable, I worked part time and he made me feel guilty for working and leaving the children. Ive been called, ugly, a bad Mum, a slag, crazy and he insulting my family any chance he could. He mentally tortured me and on one occasion i said i was leaving. He would Not lett me sleep, threatening that ill never leave the house again, threatened to kill me. I would go to bed crying, i hated my life and my eldest was so unhappy (youngest was to young to understand). I finally after years of saying i was leaving, left. Id threatened this before and ex partner would always cry and apologise and change his ways for 2/3 days then his behaviour was back to 'normal'. Ive now moved out and im so happy and my children are doing amazing. But i feel guilty for leaving. I feel sorry for ex p. Im glad i left, it was the best decision i ever made but ex p mopes about and always looks sad and he's in our old family home which is a large house by himself and i feel sorry for him when i know I shouldn't. I gave him so many opportunities to change and I wasn't asking for the world and he couldn't do it. Im happy but im sad at the same time. I don't know why im feeling guilty all of a sudden. Anyone else left a broken relationship and felt similar? How did you deal with it.
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