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Divorce at my age (58 male) my wife 63(7 Posts)
Well first I am a man of 58 years of age. Been with my wife for 26 years married for 8 years we have our own home with a small mortgage with 5 years left. We had both been married before when we where young I have always got on well with my stepchildren. They are all grown up and mainly doing ok its hard at these times. My wife does not get on and never has with my children I would say she tolerates them but with them being grown up it does not cause a problem.
I discovered whilst looking at her I Pad that she was planning to leave me today (I only used her I Pad as my phone was flat with her permission) a message popped up about the fact from her friend to say I was shocked was an understatement.
When I asked her she asked me to buy her out of the house I don't have that sort of money all the money I have is in pensions as is my soon to be ex wife's is as well. It has came as a shock we have had a few problems of late but hasn't everyone but we are making ends meet have helped out our children with money and still have money left.
We had a problem before the lock down where my wife had been into the bank telling them I don't know what which caused our joint account to keep getting frozen and our bank cards not to work. She said she did not do or say anything I had to change accounts for my salary as I did not feel safe with the bank and could not get to the bottom of the problem. My wife had to eventually go into to the bank with ID and the problem was solved.
Since I have found out and made arrangements to move out and live somewhere else as well as arrange a solicitor change all my next of kin and insurance my wife has now said she can not afford the house on her own. So I am now still staying but prepared for the worse our house is going for sale we will split the money and go our separate ways.
I have always found that women seem to like me and have been offered by some of the ladies I have meet in life with who have wanted to be very friendly with me. Which I have never took up I have never commited adultery in my life.
Well thank you anyone who has read my long winded post I just needed to write it down and get it off my chest. I do feel I will be ok I can cook sew clean and diy like a champion all of which I have done more than my fair share.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to find a friend (or two) who doesn't have any sexual interest in you to talk to in real life.
You will need to go to mediation to sort out your assets and due to your age it will definitely mean the division of pensions as well as property. Get advice from your solicitor how much your wife should get before agreeing to anything.
Bit of an odd one to put on Mumsnet ???
The clue is in the title...
*Bit of an odd one to put on Mumsnet ???
The clue is in the title...*
By parents for parents?
The post is a bit unusual, but let's not be dicks...
OP: nothing relevant to say except "Good luck. Sounds tough."
I'm sorry OP. Did she say why she's wanting a divorce?
It sounds like you've got everything sorted and been v organised
no my grandson wants to set me up a tinder account just wanted a woman's thoughts on it but I am fine now sometimes shit happens
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