Divorce proceeding

[AndrogenGavin]

How unlikely is it that someone starts the divorce process and then withdraws/changes their mind?

[millymollymoomoo]

Doesn’t happen v often really so it’s unlikely
Although not impossible

[AndrogenGavin]

I'm just trying to figure out whether my wife has just used it as a threat as a few weeks ago she said she'd started proceedings but is now acting like were a family, asking me to join family meals etc

[AndrogenGavin]

Anyone

[leafeater]

She's probably trying to make it as amicable as possible?

[AndrogenGavin]

You're probably right but I was talking with a mutual friend and they told me when they spoke with her she said things like we usually buy multipacks as were a family of 4 (still including me as part of that as we have 2dc) so wondering if I should still have hope? I hate misreading things as I often do that!

[remainin]

AndrogenGavin Ask her!

[AndrogenGavin]

She won't discuss it at all and don't want to push it

[AndrogenGavin]

Hence why asking for opinions lol

[toobusytothink]

What do you mean she won’t discuss it. That’s ridiculous!

[AndrogenGavin]

Ok I'm too scared to bring it up as I want to believe it's not happening

[JaggySplinter]

My personal experience is that my DH used it as a threat to control me. I eventually just agreed every time he brought up the "if you don't like it, you shouldn't have married me" or "I'm leaving" and said that yes, he should leave.

After we finally agreed that he definitely should leave, he went into total denial and tried playing happy families. But only when it served his interests.

You need to both grow up and talk about it. Ignoring the issue won't make it go away.

[AndrogenGavin]

@JaggySplinter
She said she'd started the proceeding and seems committed as she said she even took out a new life insurance but just don't really understand why she's making me involved still but I guess like another poster says she wants it to perhaps be amicable for the kids?

[Gwendolain99]

I would think that it's very rare. I've never heard of anyone else doing that tbh!

[BaskingMad]

@AndrogenGavin- what is it that you want? Stay together or divorce? I see some signs that suggest if you want to stay together and will talk to her, it might work out. You however don’t talk to her- why? We’re strangers here.
On the other hand, she doesn’t need to announce to the whole world she is divorcing, hence still talking of you all as a family unit.
If you do nothing, the risk is she will carry this through. Are you ok with it? If not, talk to her.
My ‘d’h knows i started divorce proceedings and there’s zero action from him hence it will happen.