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What Makes a Good Lawyer?

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Mummykins54 · 18/08/2020 00:19

I am in the process of separating and my friend recommended a lawyer.

I have 2 children aged 16 and 19, she has none. Anyway I met with this lawyer and he was very nice - he issued a letter to my husband which was very general. I have been a victim of emotional abuse and my worker suggested another female lawyer. I spoke to her on a Zoom call and she was very knowledgeable. But its hard to gauge a connection when you haven't met face to face.

I think my husband will be really awkward. We are still living in the same home but not talking.

So from experience what makes a good lawyer - what should I take into consideration. I live in Scotland

Thanks in advance

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DM1209 · 18/08/2020 00:41

Someone who is on your side but honest with you about the merits of your case. They need to have the ability to ensure you understand what is happening or could happen; every step of the way.

Tenacity, empathy, an effective communicator and a sense of humour are all extras that I throw in with my clients. Makes for a great working relationship.

Good luck with everything.

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Mummykins54 · 18/08/2020 00:56

DM1209 thanks for your fast response.

So how do I gauge these traits? It is hard on a zoom call. What she did say was that going forward there is a monthly fee but the more contact I had with her e.g. have you heard from my husband's lawyer then this would incur further fees.

The lawyer who has already sent the letter said he will deduct his fees once we have a settlement.

I am so confused

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GlassOfProsecco · 18/08/2020 15:54

I thought that certain lawyers in Scotland take legal aid for domestic abuse cases?

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DM1209 · 19/08/2020 13:40

As mentioned, look into legal aid. Your Solicitor has a duty to ensure that you understand your costs at all times. There should be a breakdown of how fees are charged and what it is you're paying for.

If a legal professional is rushing you, making you feel like you cannot approach them because they are 'busy', they are not for you.
Effective communication comes into play here.

If I was you, I'd compile a list of your questions, no matter what they are. I would then email them to my Solicitor. Based on their response, I would know if I am at ease with them or not. If I'm not confident in their interactions with me, I will not instruct them.

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