Hello all, I am hoping i can find people who recognise my situation and give me a bit of advice. My husband and I separated in Feb after two difficult years. I raised that I thought things weren’t working and he ignored it until it was too late and counselling was a waste of time. communication was awful during this time. He is very closed. I was euphoric when we separated - he moved out. I am in family home with our 3 DDs. I felt strong and able to cope with moving forward, supporting them and sorting out our house (which is a job in itself) and finances.
However, lockdown took the wind out of my sails in moving forward with that. I was fine, but for the last three months or so I have been suffering from terrible anxiety and feel incapable and not up to doing this. After agreeing to try to get on for the kids, my ex and I can barely manage to talk to each other. Some of that is with me, I am very angry with him about some behaviour i found out after we split (coming onto friends) that I can’t tell him about and I don’t think there is any advantage on telling him about. He is very passive and is happy in his new easy to manage flat and doesn’t make any efforts to make things better.
I am so frustrated with myself that I am not moving forward. I wake up every morning sick with fear and worry about everything (most of it is not rational). I took the kids on a unsuccessful camping trip and we came back early and I have been crying on and off in front of them. I am getting counselling, but I am so confused at my own reaction.
Can someone please tell me this is normal and will pass and I will be a functioning adult again?
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Separated in Feb - struggling now with anxiety after being fine
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FlouryBap · 08/08/2020 09:13
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