I left my husband in July last year, we tried living together with the children but his behaviour became unbearable, getting the older children 11 and 8 to swear at me, say they wished I was dead, they hated me whilst he filmed my reaction. I got a loan and a rented house in November as I was hopeful the situation would be resolved fairly quickly. The children spend time with us both I have them 8 nights/him 6 nights every fortnight, he instigated this and I didnt fight it even though our youngest was 4 at the time. Now 1 year later we are no further forward with the divorce, not for my trying to get resolution, offered 50/50 on the house, he can keep the contents and there are no pensions on either side. I have waited over one month for a reply to my offer and his valuations on the house. My solicitor says the only way forward as he clearly isnt prepared to mediate is to go to court. Our last letter threaten if we didnt hear anything in 7 days we would apply for a Form A. Its really beginning to effect my health, I went back to work when he started doing some childcare and I work long days when I haven't got our children, which is a blessing really but I am on minimum wage and my wages now wont cover the rent/bills, loan money is all gone and I worry I will lose this house and not be able to have our children on my days? Please tell me if anyone has experience anything similar, how they supported their children with all the emotions they feel about the family break up and how you found the strength to keep going?, every day I wake up with an awful foreboding feeling!
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Stale Mate in Divorce - Running out of options
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QueenBee42 · 27/07/2020 14:10
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