My partner has always said that we would get married but has continually made excuses not to over the years.
We have 2 children and we are likely going to be separating. The house is in joint names and will be shared equally, I know that if we were married, I could have been entitled to more equity of the house after visiting a solicitor.
I know that if we were married, I could claim some of his pension and that because we are not, he doesn't have to give me any.
I have worked part-time since having DCs and my pension has therefore suffered. I knew the risks at the time, being unmarried but rightly made this decision for the sake of my mental health.
DH will be entitled to a very large inheritance one day, which I obviously will never benefit from. My pension (which would have been very good should I have worked FT) will have suffered greatly, whilst his will be excellent.
I am hoping that morally, he sees that parting with a proportion of his pension is the right thing to do as we have lived as a married couple and I've sacrificed my career and pension to take care of our children until they have reached school age.
I'm dubious though and I'm guessing that the majority of men avoid making the right moral decision.
Has anyone ever known a man to willingly share his pension on separation?
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Have you ever known an unmarried man to share his pension on separation?
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Cereail · 14/07/2020 07:19
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