After years of being unhappy, I’ve finally realised that my 20+ year marriage is over. He loses his temper over the smallest things, is constantly negative and we haven’t had a proper conversation, let alone anything more intimate, for years. We have an 11 yr old and the atmosphere is horrible for him.
After things festering for a while, we finally had the conversation last night where I said we would be better off apart. Apparently that makes me the coldest, most selfish bitch he’s ever met, he doesn’t understand why I would say that after everything he does for me. Most worrying, he said that he wishes he was dead and, if I insist on going through with this, that’s what might happen.
He’s also said that he will tell our son ‘the truth’ - that I’ve decided that I don’t want to be married to him anymore and so he’s being forced to separate against his will. If it was up to him, we would still be a ‘happy family’.
I know this is the right thing to do, and I genuinely think that he knows it, deep down. I’m doubting myself though, so I go home, tell him to forget it, keep my head down and not rock the boat? Am I being selfish??
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Is he right? Am I just being selfish?
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Lonelyinacrowd · 11/07/2020 12:24
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