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Narcissist ex. Is co parenting even possible?(6 Posts)
Well as the title says, is co parenting possible with a narcissist, my ds near 2 dad just plays constant games basically the whole 3 years the relationship was always up and Down. But since my sons been born its been me with him day and night from he was born I've never had a break, while he goes around sitting with his mates doing nothing all day (hasn't worked for nearly a year) the last few months everything has really came to a head, 3 months ago he called the police 2 my house and tryed to make out I was suicidal. So they had to do a welfare check on me, they then went to his to give him a warning. I've never stopped him from seeing our son. But he never turms up on days or times that we arrange, he then went to a lawyer a few weeks ago to arrange contact which he has lol but this was to try a get a reaction from me. Now last night he was messaging me vile messages then send screenshot of messages with random women on fb, and old pictures of him and female friends, I presume this is to try and make me jealous,
Then spoke abt my dead dad, who he's never even met. Ihave blocked him now as he only wants to message about his hatred towards me but no mention of his son.
Sorry for the long post, I've had enough and just want him out my life l, he's very negative and draining and really affects my mental health, I have a right to be happy. Where do I go from here
You don't co parent you parallel parent and ignore him.
Don’t block... keep all his texts as evidence of harassment and abuse. Call the police. Have him arrested.
Is there a definition of parrallel parenting that if you end up being taken to court, that doesn't look like you are being uncooperative? I am also in this position.
@Snowballupahill start a new thread in lone parents/relationships indicating your children's ages and whether either of you works shifts then posters will give you an idea of what is reasonable contact. Also ask any separated parents you know in rl.
Then do all your contact discussions with him politely in email. Then stick to what is seen as fair on your side even if he breaks his side.
Thanks for the advice, I replied to his lawyer, he was asking for 4 days a week 9am to 6pm, my laywer basically laughed at this as he can't expect to go from taking him around 3 hours once a week if that (can't bring him back quick enough) so we have replied back with 2 days a week not that he will turn up at 9 am lucky if he can even turn up in the afternoon. But I will give the benifit of doubt.
And yes I have kept all the messages I haven't blocked his number just in other app so he cannot send pictures ect
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