I've told my DH I want a divorce. I'm not sure if he knows I am actually serious but he's said I can have 100% of the equity. He's a porn addict and has basically ruined my life I feel given we've been married 19 years and together 22 years. The porn I did get over but it graduated to sex sites, first gumtree then craigslist and then fabswingers and a multitude of other sites. He's definetly tried to meet girls (and did meet one that I found out about but nothing happened) and I found lots of messages going back a few years (nothing recent in the last 12 months) trying to arrange hook ups both locally and when he's been away for work trips. Me finding stuff out about this has happened every 1-2 years for at least the last 11 years (found out first time when I was 4 months pregnant with DC2). I stayed initially as kids were small, I wouldn't have coped well on my own and I guess I forgave him, he begged forgiveness etc promised not to do it again. He's always said I can have 100% of the equity (I guess he feels ashamed). We live in London. Property isn't cheap and if I can't afford to buy something for me and the kids I'd need to leave London. Since finding dick pics a couple of weeks ago on his camera roll and telling him really this is it now I asked him about the 100% equity thing and he said yes. We're talking about £500,000. Do you think a judge would allow this? i know nothing about divorce so don't know how this all works. If he really wants me to have it all then will anyone stop him? I was thinking not to ask for any maintenance etc and I'd support the kids myself from my own salary and I'd still need a small mortgage. He earns only about £2000 a month so he'd barely be able to rent a studio flat really so i'd just let him keep all that. Does that sound even remotely fair? I have a better pension too. I will be OK. I feel his total lack of respect for women is a bad role model so I don't want to 50/50 share the kids and think why the bloody hell should I ? Thought please? xx
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