Financial Settlement/Clean Break Question

[Munchkin08]

We have agreed a 60/40 split with me taking over the mortgage payments and getting a loan to pay ex his share of equity in property and then want clean break. However, he is now asking that my share of equity in the is protected by a trust agreement incase I re-marry. Has anyone heard of this before? I feel unfair as he is getting his equity with no stipulations. For the record I am not in a relationship, he left do to unreasonable behaviour and is in a relationship, I have brought up 3 children with very little help from him. I would put something in place to protect the children inheritance if I were to remarry.

[Zalen]

I don't have any legal standpoint, but it seems highly unreasonable that in this day and age he would have any say over what you do with your share of the equity once the divorce is done. Can you speak to a solicitor about this?

[Munchkin08]

Thank you for your reply Zalen. Thats exactly how I think - as I said I am not in a relationship but does seem ironic that he is the one that caused us to split, I find it quite controlling - yet he is the one who says to me to move on, which I have but because I am not in another relationship does not mean I haven't. I have sent an email to my solicitor but wanted to see other peoples views.

[millymollymoomoo]

He’s being ridiculous
You share is your share . You can leave it to whoever you like
He’s not getting the concept of a clean break is he
Once it’s agreed and signed ( legal consent order) he has no say in this