Currently sharing house with my ex until he sees whether he can afford to buy me out. He’s delaying mediation as much as possible and now corona has hit so nothing’s going to happen soon. Kids are age 6&8 and know we’re planning on living separately.
I have met, and was completely unprepared to fall in love with someone new. Thought that was never going to be for me again. It’s also happened pretty quickly, known him 4 months, been dating 3 months. Can’t believe it really. He lives about an hour away. Time together is limited due to needing to be with my children. I haven’t told my ex yet on advice of a friend who is a family lawyer. Thing is, he thinks I’m visiting a friend when I go away for a night or two. I hate the deception and feeling like I’m having an affair and not very proud of lying to him even though it’s probably for his own sake and to keep life as pleasant as possible until finances and divorce settled.
New chap is completely understanding of this. I want to on the one hand get on with life and would love the children to meet him. We’re both pretty certain this is the real thing even though it’s so soon. On the other I don’t want to hurt my ex any more than I have to and want the divorce to be as amicable as possible.
Do I tell ex and get on with life and take the flack, or keep quiet and wait it out? Can’t move out in to rented, as I have a dog and it’s two moves for my children but no money to buy anything until divorce sorted. I think I probably ought to wait it out, but getting impatient with the lack of progress.
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Shakeyitoff · 26/03/2020 21:08
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