Tonight I’m broken

[Sesicilana]

Just had a nice evening with husband, put child early to sleep, light up candles, movies, dinner, se* and when I checked time on his phone - I saw woman sending him picture of him and a her (she was kissing him on cheek). Last week he was on work trip - I think he was with her. The picture was recent judging by his look and they were both in shirts outside(so defo not UK). it came as complete shock! I’m packing all his bags tomorrow. He refused to show me the rest of messaging(obviously has something to hide) and was upset I checked his phone...I feel humiliated, broken, upset, I was still naked after hours of cuddling and sex I’m so broken ... just needed to vent

[Otter71]

Is there any logical explanation? Did he offer nothing? After all in some cultures kissing on the cheek is just a hello?
Do you normally check his phone? Is that something he would expect you to do?
I always found it one sided. He would monitor my phone use and check my stuff but kick off when reciprocated to the extent that teenage DD seems to think it is her right to check the phone but won't give me her PIN... Obviously everyone is different in that respect. He may show you soon, he may not...
Good luck

[Sesicilana]

he told me they went on a date and he is ashamed - but I believe it went further than that

[Meeeh]

I’m so sorry. This is horrible and a similar thing happened to me. You need to understand that men who cheat can compartmentalise the affair - almost like they’re playing a role.

If he’s not willing to share the messages and be open about this, you will find it hard to trust again.

What are you going to do? Is he staying elsewhere ?

[thistooshallpass2018]

How are you?

[Bluntness100]

He was on a date with another woman? How did he meet her? How long ago
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