My DH has been off work sick with his MH for one year, he’s been offered redundancy which he wants to take. 17K
He’s been caring for the kids during this time as I had to work casually on the side for a friend to bring in cash, while also on mat leave from my main job which is a 3 day a week role. I earn 25 k doing that. My friend pays me 100 a day rate. I also have a small business which I used up all my capitol in to live off in 2019 while we were skint. Yes that does indeed kill me.
I have a pension only paying in about 5 years but he’s 15 years older and has none, his parents helped financially with house but I always paid into the mortgage a fair Proportion even prior to marriage.
I’m now working all the hours I can to keep a roof over our heads. My income would cover all bills but nothing else. So I don’t know what would happen if we split.
I’m not sure we will make it. Things between us are utterly hellish. He will want and I would be fine with joint custody. He has no job or income right now though.
I’m afraid I’ll loose everything, my home with I work so hard for. I have no where else to go, no family support. What can I do to be in a position of strength? If I make this call should I wait rather cynically until he’s being paid again so at least he would have to help me financially with our babies?
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Mercier1 · 16/02/2020 22:36
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