Hi guys, after some advice/opinions. I'll try to be brief.
Myself and DH split up when DS was 2 and have been 50/50 split time parenting. I didn't like it but had no grounds to say no.
DS starts school this year and the 50/50 won't work. I've taken a Monday-Fri day time hrs flexible job to look after DS around school hours. His dad works a random shift pattern of days and nights (I used to too) which means there's no stability. DS is with me for 3 days, him for 2, me for 1, him for 4, not the same days week by week - chaos.
I've sought legal advice who said it would be hard (and £££) to fight at court. I've broached the subject with my ex about wanting DS to have a more stable routine and I'm in a position to offer that, he can still see him as often as he likes in waking hours but DS should have a life where he knows roughly the plan I.e stay at exes one weekday and alternate weekends. I'm not trying to reduce my exes time with DS in fact I've lived my life since the split enabling that 50/50 by changing work hours, 'babysitting' soy ex can still go out the nights ex has DS, it's alway me taking time off to look after DS when poorly (which I don't mind at all), and lately when my ex has DS he books him in for extra nursery, takes him to friends/neighbours so he doesn't have to look after him? My ex has said he won't relinquish anything less than 50/50 and I feel so frustrated as I just want the best for DS and that our current arrangement isn't offering that, in fact the only person this whole situation suits is ex? Anyone else had this? Or solved this?
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50/50 not working
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laural01 · 14/02/2020 22:26
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