In the process of separating after many unhappy years.
Have DC aged 11 & 6.
I've been part-time & the primary carer, doing all drop off's, pickups, cooking, dentist appts during the week.
Their dad usually comes home around 7-7.30 & does stories etc. He is a bit more involved during the weekends.
He's wanting to stay in the house, buy me out & start doing 50/50. Probably to avoid maintenance.
Have had a try at it the last couple of weeks & he's been hopeless - late, not giving baths & showers, forgetting lunches/PE kits etc.
The kids are tired from 11 hour days in childcare & asking why mummy can't drop them as usual.
I don't think this is in their best interests.
He also has mental health issues with significant periods of time off work, Witt resulting financial issues.
I think they would be better with 1 night during week & EOW. But for him that would mean maintenance & he can't keep house. I can't buy him out.
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Dad with minimal input in day to day life of kids now wanting 50-50
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MakeMineALargeProsecco · 29/01/2020 13:12
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