Been separated for 2 years now, had the decree nisi through last year but just can’t get there on the financial arrangement.
House has been sold, most things split. The final thing is XH deferred bonus from years we were together (we were together from age 24 to 33, 2 small children). Agreed split is 60:40 but I have a statement saying there is £150k to come and he is insisting it is now £15k. Point blank refuses to give any evidence, says it’s private. Only thing left would be to drag it through the courts. It’s in a work account (he works for a bank) and so I have no visibility or access. He blatantly has a lot of money squirrelled away in there, at least this £150k if not more.
He’s extremely nasty, controlling. So far hasn’t pushed for custody of the kids etc. I can manage without it but money is very tight and he’s unreliable so could stop paying CM at any point and this would provide me a safety net.
Should I just let it go and move on? I’m worried if I don’t let him have the money he’ll come for the children, and I don’t think I can take dragging it through court. We’ve avoided court so far. I’m very scared of him and what he’ll do.
Thanks for any advice or opinions.
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Should I just walk away from the money?
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ChloeR81 · 24/01/2020 21:08
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