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Blushingm Tue 21-Jan-20 22:10:31

Ex has told his solicitor that I'm ignoring him with regards to contact to DD

DS he doesn't seem bothered about but he's told his solicitor he's text me 8 times asking to see he and I've not replied. Last I heard was in September and DD didn't want to see him. She's 13 and I've said she can change her mind at any time.

He's out & out lied- he's not contacted me at all. DD still doesn't want to see him - I can't make her can I? Can he make me see a mediator or make her go in front of the judge?

Neither child got anything from him for Christmas, not a card or a text or anything - DD is 13 and DS is 18

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Louise91417 Tue 21-Jan-20 22:15:12

If you havent heard from him since september why is he bothering now...have you changed your number and could he be texting an old number?

Blushingm Tue 21-Jan-20 22:17:10

I've not changed my number or anything - he's been ignoring my solicitor and not responding to is own for months until my solicitor got a letter this week about my DD

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Louise91417 Tue 21-Jan-20 22:47:52

I wouldnt stress too much...if he hasnt bothered since september i cant see him pursuing anything. Even if he did, the wishes of your dd would be taken into consideration as she is 13. Mediation is first port of call, if that fails or if you cant agree it will then be court. All you can do is wait and see what his next move is, i no its horrible not knowing but like i say, dd wishes will be taken into consideration.and he has done himself no favours waiting this long and telling lies..

Cakeandmorecake Tue 21-Jan-20 22:56:55

My children are very similar ages and my solicitor and a charity have advised that at those ages their wishes and feelings will be taken into account. If they don't want to see their dad then it's their decision.

Blushingm Wed 22-Jan-20 10:20:02

Thanks, I just find it so stressful. I don't really think mediation will help as it's not me stopping her - it's purely her choice. I also worry that it'll really upset her if she's got to explain how she feels in front of a judge. She had problems surrounding feeling guilty about the divorce, he would go ott with telling her how much he loves her but it made her feel uncomfortable - she had counselling through school and the gp and she's much better now, I don't want her feeling like that again

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