I really want to leave DP. We've been together for 15 years but it's clear his weed habit takes priority over most other things. He's rude and abusive and tight with money. He says I'm cold and uncaring but that's because after years of this I know there's no point trying anymore. Plus I hate him for the way he speaks to me especially in front of the children.
Anyway we jointly own our house and he pays the mortgage. Most of the deposit was put in by me and my brother so about £27k tied up in the house. With our previous house I had a 'declaration of interest' document done by the solicitor to protect my deposit in case we split up but unfortunately I didn't get it done again for our current house - DP was annoyed about it the first time so I couldn't face the hassle tbh.
My question really is: if I leave, am I hardly going to be able to claim anything because of jointly owning the house? I did a calculation on entitledto.com and it asks about the value of the house - do I put in half the amount of equity or all of it? Either way I think I'm stuffed.
Also I don't earn much (self-employed, part-time) so with renting would the fact I own a property help? In a guarantor kind of way, ie. if I fell behind with rent they could take recovery action against my house?
There are so many unknowns and I can't just leave with no plan but I definitely do need to leave. He's emotionally abusive and I can't have the little one growing up and having to go through everything the older one did.
Thank you.
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How do I work out if I can afford to privately rent if I leave DP?
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Teapot55 · 13/01/2020 22:15
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