I am at the end of my tether with my ex husbands behaviour where our girls are concerned. We have 2 girls who are now 7 and 9. We have been separated for 3 and a half years, I moved myself and the children out 3 years ago and finally got the divorce through at the beginning of last year. I have been with a new partner now for 2 and a half years, he has lived with me and my children for 2 years. He has been a great support, building me up after suffering emotional abuse from my ex. He has taken on the girls and treated them as his own and they feel comfortable with him and love him.
My Ex constantly tries to control our lives, still. He thinks its his god given right to change plans whenever it suits him. He thinks he can say what he likes to the girls as " he is their dad".He thinks he can tell me that the girls are not allowed to spend any time on their own with my partner, I have tried reasoning with him so many times. He says nasty things to them about me, about my partner. I truly believe he is out of control. My youngest came home after staying with him christmas eve and told us daddy says my partner " is a f-ing nobody" and she actually said the f word. It broke my heart. I have lists and lists of things he has done and said, but last night was the final straw when they said daddy had told them if my partner sees them naked in the shower he is going to be phoning the police. My heart is breaking for what he is putting my girls through. I already have a mediation appointment booked for thursday but he has refused medaition before as he doesn't want to pay. It really is distressing. I am trying so hard to keep it together and keep the children protected, but this can't go on. The courts have never been involved as i never wanted to have to go through it or put the girls through it. I truly hoped that by now he would have let off.When we first separated i got a separation agreement where the contact was pretty much agreed along with maintenance. But that was obviously some time ago. Any advice truly appreciated.
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Do I stop contact? I can't take anymore.
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Hollyrose79 · 13/01/2020 13:16
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