Hi lovely folks.
It's been 15 months since I was told our marriage was over. I've had to move out over 12 months ago as ex was not willing to let me have the house. My ex still wants this to be amicable and is waiting the 2 years for a divorce (doesnt see any fault but I have shed loads of evidence). However... ex still doesn't do what is promised, still doesnt fully adhere to the parenting plan only when it pleases. Everything still seems to be on ex's terms.
In November I found the online dating profile I dreaded (we got matched as a perfect pair). I had a gut feeling and it was correct. We have to maintain contact for our child as we have a split care arrangement. The joy of modern technology. Well for someone who was always online they suddenly go missing for over 12 hours!
I've had my suspicions confirmed as unfortunately some people don't have good poker faces and can't engage with me when holding a secret.
Its killed me. I've crashed all over again but spectaculaly this time. I've not eaten in 4 days, dd is on my time so I'm trying to make it look like I'm ok so that my dd doesnt suspect.
After my collapse I've been told it's only a few dates. but I know my dd will freak when this all comes out. I'll hit the wall again I know it.
I'm scared that ex will introduce early and I'm now going to have to spend 2020 dealing with this mess as well as the pending papers I know will come through the door. Dd only talks to me and not to ex.
Any words of advice would be much appreciated x
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L05t · 05/01/2020 08:58
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