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Can anyone recommend a good mediator in London?

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BighouseLittlemouse Wed 01-Jan-20 14:53:06

Just that really. Ex moved out 2 years ago now so want to start the process of divorce ( despite him instigating and moving in immediately with OW he doesn’t appear to be taking any steps!).

I’m assuming it’s worth trying mediation? I saw a solicitor immediately after he left but wondering if I maybe should again.

Also could anyone advise ( although I’m guessing mediator will?) what info I will need?

Many thanks!

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Palaver1 Sat 04-Jan-20 08:22:02

Wish I icould help.mine was shit It was the easiest 270 that could be made ever but I just wanted the certificate to say I had attended and he hadnt.

abstractprojection Fri 10-Jan-20 15:57:12

I can't recommend mine either. Although hindsight provides me with some tips!

1. Go to a solicitor first to get a clear idea of what range you should offer or accept, what are the highest/lowest offers in your interest to accept or decline, and at what point is it in your interest to go to court.

2. Before booking or paying for a joint sessions, get confirmation in writing that your ex has stated something he would agree to in his private session, and that the mediator considers it close enough for mediation to be likely to result in an agreement.

3. Request explicit clarification of what confidentiality you can expect before giving them your range, and keep your final offer to yourself.

4. If you or your ex don't want to agree to something in the session you can defer the decision making to a further date say a week and do so via email at no cost. But this can only be a yes or no answer.

5. For an agreement reached via mediation to become legally binding it must become a Consent Order. This must be written and submitted by a solicitor (so you must enlist/pay one at some point).

6. If you reach an agreement you do not need a Memorandum of Understanding, to submit Form E to your mediator, or pay for them to do anything further beyond mediating the sessions. You just need to give your solicitor the agreement and assurance that your ex has agreed to it eg. an email from ex confirming what they agree to.

6. Get clear fees for all documents you may want or need from the mediator, and estimation of hours if they only give an hourly rate, before starting the process for one. Personally I would pick one with clearer fees on their website ie. this document costs X amount, other a good deal on your initial session and wiff waff about 'the average client saves X amount by using me'.

abstractprojection Fri 10-Jan-20 16:06:33

To go to either a solicitor or mediator you need as much of the following for both of you, as you have access too:

- Basics: DOB, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, date and place of marriage (certificate would be good, but not essential), right to divorce in UK (born here, reside here, property here)
- Property: address, mortgage provider, value, outstanding mortgage, equity, owner/s and share. Also who has paid the mortgage and how much.
-Other assets: value and ownership inc. pensions, savings, and things like cars, art, jewellery, collectables with an individual value over 500.00
- Details of any debts: amounts and ownership. This can include 'soft loans' such as money lent by family, or money owed to either of you.
- Details of all income: salary, other benefits, permanent/temporary, rental income, interest, dividends etc.

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