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Quirkyfox3 Tue 03-Dec-19 09:05:23

I have divorced my husband about a week ago. Yesterday we had a huge fight about him telling lies about me. I divorced him because over a period of thirteen years four times I found video footage of me getting dressed or undressed, photos close up of me sleeping naked and webcam sites where this can be posted(i cant prove it was ever posted)..during our seperation I asked my friend also going through a divorce to stay with me in my house (in the living room) because he supported me emotionally when I had no one and he had to stay. My ex husband made it clear yesterday that no one cares what he did(my ex with the videos and photos)...and its because I am had an affair with my friend(still waiting for the prove) that we are got divorced and Im only trying to be the victim. I am utterly tired of this...I dont want can people be this cruel. I dont know if they even know the truth, they havent spoken to me since this started...I did tell my sister in law everything...but she even now pushed me aside.

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MrsMaiselsMuff Tue 03-Dec-19 09:09:47

If you are suicidal then please call your GP and ask for an urgent appointment, or go to A&E.

LuluBellaBlue Tue 03-Dec-19 09:10:52

You’re through the worst. You’ve divorced this scum bag. He’s nearly out of your life and clearly trying any desperate last measures to keep you entangled to him.

See him like an energy vampire.

Disengage and keep as far away from him as possible, if you can block him from contacting you.
Well done for getting this far, not long until you’re totally free of him and can start re building your life flowers

HollyIvy89 Tue 03-Dec-19 09:15:54

Please look after yourself. Call the doctor. Or Samaritans 116 123 talk it through.

You are through the worst of it. You have got rid of him. What he says doesn’t matter. As long as you know the truth. I read a couple of weeks ago that in a manner it doesn’t matter what actually happened as the person who behaved wrong/inappropriate will have already rewritten their story and they will believe it themselves. There’s sadly not much you can do about that.

But keep remembering you are now free to live your life the way you like and hopefully will begin to feel more secure.

HopeMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 03-Dec-19 12:29:08

Hello QuirkyFox3,

We are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

It's just a standard message, Quirky, so don't worry unduly, and we do hope that you receive support on here from our lovely MNers.

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