How long did your divorce take?

[coreyp]

From day of separation until Decree Nisi (spelling?).
I'm guessing 2 yrs is about average. Friend managed it in 4-5 months, though.

[MsPepperPotts]

Separation to Decree Nisi 4months then Decree Absolute 3months after that.

[coreyp]

Thanks.
Anyone else?

[DookofBust]

Separation to nisi three months - financial consent order seven weeks and counting - it’s in the pile for the judge to review.

[Veronicat]

6 weeks start to finish but I'm in Scotland and it was a clean break.

[suesylvesterr]

Almost a year for me. Was all done online and took a ridiculous amount of time. It was a simple divorce as well.

[suesylvesterr]

A year from the date of me filing for divorce, not from when we split.

[VictoriaBun]

Married 19 years, separated in March , divorced by December.

[Karou]

My solicitor has told me that unless one of us becomes a lot more batshit crazy it will take about 4 months.

[OhioOhioOhio]

More than 3 years and still counting...

[TheHodgeoftheHedge]

Almost exactly a year from start to finish.

[divorcedtobe]

3 and a half years. Nearly 3 years after the divorce I’m still in and out of court.
Beware if you are divorcing a narcissist.

[Ilovetolurk]

About 3 months

Consent order and absolute just under 6 months

[EL8888]

Around 11 months. Partly because of shit solicitors and ex trying to screw me out of money. He failed dismally after trying to give me about 3% of what I was entitled to.

[Lonecatwithkitten]

5.5 years it is very, very difficult to deal with inactivity. I would complete my side it would then disappear in to black hole of ExH for 9-18 months. Then reappear, but have to be redone as finances had moved or in one case the way the documents had to be presented to court changed.

[OhioOhioOhio]

divorcedtobe

What did you find out that could help me? It's a nightmare. We are all sick of it.

[fishonabicycle]

How much does a divorce cost, all done online and uncontested?

[stucknoue]

Waiting 2 years then filing online. Why spend on solicitors!

[Karou]

fish it’s going to cost me just over £2000 as my solicitor works on a fixed fee.
You can do it yourself a lit cheaper but we have complicated finances that I’d rather were dealt with correctly so I’ll pay.

[Fishcakey]

It was much less than a year but neither of us argued and there was no money, property involved.

[Thatnovembernight]

8 months. It would have been quicker but the court kept saying they were behind and there were 8 weeks delays between paperwork going in and being processed etc.

[gemh1984]

Applied for divorce on the 27th January and nisi granted on 24th October this year.

Waiting for an agreement on finances so probably at least another 6 months before divorce will be final.

[fishonabicycle]

Thank you 👍

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

One year to the day

[divorcedtobe]

Ohio
My lovely. Work out what you are entitled to. Do not accept shitty offers that leave you in a shitty position. It’s not about justice or right snd wrong. The courts don’t care about that. It is about safe guarding your finances. I was and am dealing with someone who would happily have taken the shirt off my back and the socks off my kids feet. All with a smile and claiming to be the victim.
Cost me about 25-30k. We hardly ate. I borrowed from family. It was worth it.
Read Never Split the Difference. Spartanlifecoach on YouTube was really insightful in terms of narcissistic behaviour.
Do lots of inner work

Once you come out the other side you will feel a strength and a power you never knew you had.

[WendyMoiraAngelaDarling]

12 years because he's a flaky mo-fo who wouldn't give a proper address or engage with the process. Once I pinned him down the divorce itself was done within four months and was very straightforward.