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How long did your divorce take?

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coreyp Mon 11-Nov-19 20:22:06

From day of separation until Decree Nisi (spelling?).
I'm guessing 2 yrs is about average. Friend managed it in 4-5 months, though.

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MsPepperPotts Mon 11-Nov-19 20:25:49

Separation to Decree Nisi 4months then Decree Absolute 3months after that.

coreyp Mon 11-Nov-19 22:00:17

Anyone else?

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DookofBust Mon 11-Nov-19 22:05:52

Separation to nisi three months - financial consent order seven weeks and counting - it’s in the pile for the judge to review.

Veronicat Mon 11-Nov-19 22:07:46

6 weeks start to finish but I'm in Scotland and it was a clean break.

suesylvesterr Mon 11-Nov-19 22:13:16

Almost a year for me. Was all done online and took a ridiculous amount of time. It was a simple divorce as well.

suesylvesterr Mon 11-Nov-19 22:13:37

A year from the date of me filing for divorce, not from when we split.

VictoriaBun Mon 11-Nov-19 22:16:31

Married 19 years, separated in March , divorced by December.

Karou Mon 11-Nov-19 22:19:35

My solicitor has told me that unless one of us becomes a lot more batshit crazy it will take about 4 months.

OhioOhioOhio Mon 11-Nov-19 22:22:35

More than 3 years and still counting...

TheHodgeoftheHedge Mon 11-Nov-19 22:28:17

Almost exactly a year from start to finish.

divorcedtobe Mon 11-Nov-19 22:58:15

3 and a half years. Nearly 3 years after the divorce I’m still in and out of court.
Beware if you are divorcing a narcissist.

Ilovetolurk Mon 11-Nov-19 23:00:54

About 3 months

Consent order and absolute just under 6 months

EL8888 Mon 11-Nov-19 23:06:27

Around 11 months. Partly because of shit solicitors and ex trying to screw me out of money. He failed dismally after trying to give me about 3% of what I was entitled to.

Lonecatwithkitten Tue 12-Nov-19 00:51:44

5.5 years it is very, very difficult to deal with inactivity. I would complete my side it would then disappear in to black hole of ExH for 9-18 months. Then reappear, but have to be redone as finances had moved or in one case the way the documents had to be presented to court changed.

OhioOhioOhio Tue 12-Nov-19 06:31:09


What did you find out that could help me? It's a nightmare. We are all sick of it.

fishonabicycle Tue 12-Nov-19 06:32:14

How much does a divorce cost, all done online and uncontested?

stucknoue Tue 12-Nov-19 06:45:42

Waiting 2 years then filing online. Why spend on solicitors!

Karou Tue 12-Nov-19 06:52:06

fish it’s going to cost me just over £2000 as my solicitor works on a fixed fee.
You can do it yourself a lit cheaper but we have complicated finances that I’d rather were dealt with correctly so I’ll pay.

Fishcakey Tue 12-Nov-19 07:05:01

It was much less than a year but neither of us argued and there was no money, property involved.

Thatnovembernight Tue 12-Nov-19 07:13:46

8 months. It would have been quicker but the court kept saying they were behind and there were 8 weeks delays between paperwork going in and being processed etc.

gemh1984 Tue 12-Nov-19 07:50:43

Applied for divorce on the 27th January and nisi granted on 24th October this year.

Waiting for an agreement on finances so probably at least another 6 months before divorce will be final.

fishonabicycle Tue 12-Nov-19 09:25:17

Thank you 👍

PrincessHoneysuckle Tue 12-Nov-19 09:42:09

One year to the day

divorcedtobe Tue 12-Nov-19 10:20:02

My lovely. Work out what you are entitled to. Do not accept shitty offers that leave you in a shitty position. It’s not about justice or right snd wrong. The courts don’t care about that. It is about safe guarding your finances. I was and am dealing with someone who would happily have taken the shirt off my back and the socks off my kids feet. All with a smile and claiming to be the victim.
Cost me about 25-30k. We hardly ate. I borrowed from family. It was worth it.
Read Never Split the Difference. Spartanlifecoach on YouTube was really insightful in terms of narcissistic behaviour.
Do lots of inner work

Once you come out the other side you will feel a strength and a power you never knew you had.

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