How to get tween to talk

[MaryQ89]

Hey guys
Struggling. DD is 11 - it’s start of week 5 for us - husband moved out 3 weeks ago

DD was at a difficult hormonal emotional age already. Now just will NOT talk about it. If I try to bring it up she gets very angry. Slams doors. Says she doesn’t want to talk about it. It makes her too sad. There’s been a couple occasions she lost it about something else and my SIL has been able to have rational calm convos and she’s opened up to her fears but won’t allow me in to reassure her or talk about them.

I feel so incredibly sad for her - I want to be able for her to know it’s ok to have these worries and that together maybe we can help each other.

I think she is petrified of seeing me cry and that’s why she won’t speak to me. If I do look like I may cry she practically begs me not to and then gets mad.

Also have a 6 year old who I honestly don’t know what she’s thinking.

Help !

[ColaFreezePop]

If her aunt has got her to talk to her, then enable her to see her aunt regularly so she can talk to her.

If the aunt is really concerned she will then get your daughter to talk to you or tell you.

Just because she is your child doesn't mean she will always confide in you for everything, and you should be glad she has another sensible trusted adult she can confide in.

The saying it takes a village to raise a child includes for things like this.