We have been struggling for three years, Its a long story but we have finally decided to separate. I know it’s the right decision but I feel so heartbroken. I love him so much and we have spent the last 17 years together. However I’m no longer in love with him and cannot imagine that side ever returning as too much has been said. We are still living together and very amicable. I keep having huge moments of doubt. He is my best friend. I keep wanting to hug him but that could send out the wrong signals, I miss our friendship so much as we don’t really chat anymore since deciding to split He says he’d still want to keep trying but I’ve been so unhappy for so long. There’s no abuse or affairs just two people who’ve had a lot chucked at them and have both struggled to deal with it in their own ways. He shut me out for so long that I had resigned myself for it being over and then he suddenly decided he wanted to give it a proper go and said he hadn’t been trying to make things work for a couple of years. But for me it felt too late, my head and heart had moved on. I tried to make myself fall back in love but not sure it’s possible. Sorry this is a lot of rambling but I’m struggling with all this emotion and keep worrying I might be making a massive mistake. I’m scared of when we move out, and how much I’ll miss him. Is three years long enough to keep trying? I feel like a failure and would give anything and everything to have our relationship back to how it used to be but cannot make it happen. I guess I’m Just wondering if others are in a similar situation or were? I know no one can tell me what to do, just looking for coping mechanisms and reassurance
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