My DH decided he wants to be single and not have the 'worry' of being married anymore. That was approx 6 months ago. He sort of moved out but I thought it was to get some thinking space as all he took was a couple of changes of work clothes and some shoes. Fast forward to now and as he told me by text message: I'm not coming home. I then decided to take some control so I asked to go to mediation. He ignored the suggestion. I suggested marriage counselling. Again he ignored the suggestion. I asked to meet up to talk. He was then 'not available'. The person who only ever went to a sports club one night of the week was suddenly too busy to arrange any meet up. (not even able to talk on the phone).
I reluctantly realised I was wasting my time. I served a divorce petition. He has ignored it. He ignored telephone calls. He ignored emails. He confirmed in a text that he received the court letter but has not done anything about it.
My question is: if he wants to out of the marriage why not welcome the fact I served the divorce petition?
Second question: Why does he keep all of his clothes, shoes, golf clubs, paperwork, car crap/spare parts/coats/spare work uniform, CDs, DVDs, games consoles, wide screen tv, blueray player, satellite stuff, coin collection, collected car and sports magazines in the house he wants nothing to do with?
I'm now the custodian/caretaker of all the above. And our animals. He has not once shown the slightest bit of concern or interest in our animals that we've jointly acquired and cared for in excess of 15 years.
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fingernailsbitten · 18/10/2019 11:37
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