There is a similar thread on here but hopefully some of you can give me some ideas.
My DH is a high earner. His basic is just over 200K and this increases every year. His bonuses are around 100K including cash and shares. He receives a very good company pension, other shares and pays into his own pension too.
We are separating and have 2 DC. We have been together nearly 30, a great deal of this I had to move around internationally following his career at the detriment of my own. I work p/t in a low paid local job so I can do all pickups and drop offs etc.
Moving forward DH is not prepared to look after the DC and is only interested in seeing them EOW. He has told me he is not prepared to change any aspect of his job (travel, commute or hours) to look after them, so that again impacts my ability to find full time work. He is going to move into the city near his work to shorten his commute and put an hour and a half journey between us.
He has said he will pay me what the child maintenance calculator says and we don't need to involve anyone else and go 50/50 on assets.
Basically he will be free to live the life of a single parent, have loads of money and no responsibilities. How is this fair exactly?
Under these circumstances would I be restricted to 50/50 and the child calculator payments? I know I need a good solicitor but in order to max my time with them I also need a clear idea of what I think I am entitled to before I walk in there.
Feeling pretty shitty about things and would appreciate a bit of guidance and opinion.
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What is fair here regarding finances?
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LongTimeSinceSingle · 03/10/2019 10:35
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