I don't ask the question from the emotional fall-out point of view, that's obviously horrendous and it will take time to heal, I mean from the practicalities of living life after the settlement point of view.
I work largely from home and we live near to London. My settlement buys me a 2 bed flat, one for me and one for DS doing A'levels and a sofa bed in the lounge for our DD at uni. I have no family but I'd be near to dear girlfriends who've been my support during the divorce, there's no space for my work so I'd have to change my work and move back into bread and butter stressful stuff I used to do, as I can't afford to rent a space round here as it's really pricey. OR I move away from here and away from friends and DC's friends, where I can afford a workshop, have enough rooms for DCs and a garden for DG (darling dog).
I'm so torn. I guess work tends to dictate everything, but this is not a usual scenario. I need the support and companionship of my friends and the DCs are likely to want to live with me, as much as my OH, if I stay local and are far less likely to want to hang with me if I'm in the sticks. But to stay around here means a rethink of work and losing the freelance side of life and moving back into what I see at the rat-race.
I'd really like to hear your (hopefully positive) stories of starting again, what changes you made, how you moved on and made a go of your new life.
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How did you move on and live your life after divorce?
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