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Trapped34 Thu 26-Sep-19 00:55:21

I would like to separate from my husband, and this is a decision I have made after 26 years of being with him, and always having hope that it will get better, I just can’t do it anymore. How do I do this?

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louisianafalls Thu 26-Sep-19 00:58:23

Practically;

- finances : will you need to sell a house, buy him out / move?

Have you spoken to him at all about how you feel?
How would he take it do you think ?

Trapped34 Thu 26-Sep-19 01:05:58

I just don’t know how he’ll take it, probably anger.
Finances could potentially be ok, but I don’t want to leave the house, and I know he won’t, because he views it as his house.

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Aquamarine1029 Thu 26-Sep-19 01:10:13

You need to make sure your finances are as separate as possible. You need to gather any and all important paperwork/documents. You need a solicitor as soon as possible. Unfortunately, you may need to acknowledge that the loss of your house is a small price to pay for your freedom and happiness.

Trapped34 Thu 26-Sep-19 01:23:20

Thanks Aquamarine1029, that’s good advice, really appreciated

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Aquamarine1029 Thu 26-Sep-19 01:32:48

You can do this op, brilliantly I'm sure. Just think, in just a year your life can be completely different. You have a wonderful future to look forward to! Take one day at a time and you will get there.

Palaver1 Thu 26-Sep-19 05:39:45

Make sure you divorce and not separation.
Why would you not want to move you’ll love it start afresh leave the house with all the memories behind.
It will be a laugh choosing new furniture,beddings your own bed.
Can I go on ...it will definitely keep you occupied.
All the best .

HelenBaker1 Wed 02-Oct-19 20:37:46

I'm the same. It's only been a year of our marriage but he changed as soon as we got married. He doesn't like my Eldest daughter she's 17 with a rare condition that effects her physically and mentally also been on chemotherapy. My youngest daughter rebelled and he wanted her to be put into a home until her Dad took her to live with him thank God! I used to be so happy and loved life now I'm hating every part of each day. He controls all of us we can't even watch his TV! I want him to leave but I'm scared of what will happen. Help please!

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