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Divorce/separation

Separating and her Rings?

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Life2019 · 17/09/2019 20:42

Hey everyone, my girlfriend is recently separated and I'm looking for some opinions on her Rings? We've been 'together' for around 6 months but, she has only really actively separated from her husband about 1 month ago. He's not lived with her for a while now and she's making plans to start afresh with her children and eventually me. My question is how long did/have any of you kept wearing your rings? Bearing in mind what I've just said, and what I know, I'm not worrying about how she feels about me but, why night she still be wearing them?

Please be gentle, I've never been in this situation before and I want to try and understand what she might be feeling. Thank you.

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Minionmomma · 17/09/2019 21:03

Maybe it hasn’t occurred to her that she’s still wearing them. Maybe she’s not ready to show everyone else she’s separated, people might ask awkward question... Either way you could ask her...

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Harp1977 · 17/09/2019 21:05

Does she have DC? My exSIL wore hers until her next engagement because they were a symbol of the family. Her DC helped pick them out. They become part of your hand . Where they new rings? Mine is a family ring from my side. I would feel sad to take it off tbh.
Honestly just ask her why she wears them, it may not be the ans you want but you would know the reason

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Palaver1 · 18/09/2019 05:29

When she’s god and ready she’ll take if off but why does it matter.
I took mine off years before I actually decided to push for the divorce and I did it as soon as I noted he had removed his

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Palaver1 · 18/09/2019 05:30

Supposed to read good another thing I noted as soon as I took them off I got quite a few comments from people asking where my rings were

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sandyvacancy · 18/09/2019 08:54

I took mine off a couple of weeks after we separated even though we were still living together.

Why can’t you ask her though

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AmIThough · 18/09/2019 09:22

She might just like them rather than what they symbolise.

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newmefor2020 · 18/09/2019 09:29

If she’s recently separated, surely it’s too early to be thinking about a future with anyone else?

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stucknoue · 20/09/2019 22:53

I've taken mine off now but as I bought it I feel entitled to wear it, might wear it on my right hand, it's pretty.

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PicsInRed · 21/09/2019 18:39

Together for 6 months with someone who's been separated for 1 month ... and there are children ... and you're most worried about the wedding jewelry.

Grim.

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